I'm 17 and in college... My curfew is at 9 is that fair... Tonight I went to my friends house and she lives right up the street from me. She knows her and her parents but my mom still wanted me home by 9 so I came home at 10 because when I asked she was like whatever... Now she was yelling at me how I cant take that car out anymore for awhile... I understand that the NY driving curfew is at 9 but there not so strict about it, expecilly if I'm just going down the road...
How can I talk to my mom and make a deal with her to have my cerfew to be at least 10
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1. it is fair , my curfew used to be 9 only on the weekend with a good excuse.
2. If the NY driving curfew is 9, then you have to abide by it. If you are going 'down the road', walk.
3. Hard sayin' but 9 pm is kind of harsh. I'll bet you're the oldest kid.
Gotta talk to her and find out what she's thinking. She'll definitely have a reason. May not be what you consider a good reason, but it will be a reason.
Once you know that you can begin to work on neutralizing it.
4. tell her that she needs to give you a chance to prove yourself, to prove you are responsible. the more you tell a kid what not to do, the more theyll do the opposite! reassure her about EVERYTHING (crowd you hang out with, driving slow, no drugs or alcohol, good grades)
good luck!xoxo
10 points for me ? :p
5. Simply respect your mums wishes while your under her roof,if you can drive a car maybe its time you got a place of your own.
6. walk...
7. If the driving curfew is 9, then you should be home by 9.
Your parents can be fined if you are caught driving past curfew. You can also lose your license.
You only have a year or less to go until you are eighteen, then you can move out, support yourself and make your own rules.
8. First of all, I'm a mom with a 17 year old daughter, so I am an authority on this subject. The best way to win your mother over is to adhere to the rules and show up at 9 pm. Then, maybe, she will change it to 9:30 and then 10:00pm.
She may have other reasons for the early curfew. I ask my daughter to come home by 9:30 on week nights because she has school in the AM plus I have to get up at 6:00 am for work. If she comes home late, I lie in bed waiting and I don't get enough sleep.
You'll be 18 sooner than you think. Have patience. She loves you and cares about you.
9. You need to find out what the consequences for yourself and your mom if you are pulled over and ticketed for being out after curfew. There are cases where it is the parents who will get in trouble, not the kids - do you really want your mom to have to go to court for you?
Give your mom a chance to cool down about the issue and don't press your adgenda. You knew your curfew time, you just chose to ignore it - she has the right to be angry. Show her that you are old enough to understand and accept that your choice to stay out has consequences.
Then arrange a time to talk with her about your curfew. Find out what you would have to do to get an extension. She may be unmovable, but then again she may say that if she picks you up that she'll let you stay out a bit later. At the very least you may gain some time on the weekends. Do ask her what you are supposed to do when you are out working on a homework project and are very close to finishing except you have to leave because of curfew.
10. Here is SSOO many diffrent answers. HERE I HOPE it helps.
If the NY driving curfew is 9, then you have to abide by it. If you are going 'down the road', walk.
Simply respect your mums wishes while your under her roof,if you can drive a car maybe its time you got a place of your own.
First of all, I am an authority on this subject. SISTER< but we don;t live in NY, We have the same rules.The best way to win your mother over is to adhere to the rules and show up at 9 pm. Then, maybe, she will change it to 9:30 and then 10:00pm.
She may have other reasons for the early curfew. I by 9:30 on week nights because i has school in the AM plus I have to get up at 6:00 am for it. If i comes home late,my mom lies in bed waiting andshe doesn't get enough sleep.
You'll be 18 sooner than you think. Have patience. She loves you and cares about you.
You need to find out what the consequences for yourself and your mom if you are pulled over and ticketed for being out after curfew. There are cases where it is the parents who will get in trouble, not the kids - do you really want your mom to have to go to court for you?
Give your mom a chance to cool down about the issue and don't press your adgenda. You knew your curfew time, you just chose to ignore it - she has the right to be angry. Show her that you are old enough to understand and accept that your choice to stay out has consequences.
Then arrange a time to talk with her about your curfew. Find out what you would have to do to get an extension. She may be unmovable, but then again she may say that if she picks you up that she'll let you stay out a bit later. At the very least you may gain some time on the weekends. Do ask her what you are supposed to do when you are out working on a homework project and are very close to finishing except you have to leave because of curfew.
11. 9:00 pm curfew?! Wow, that seems early. In Michigan i don't even know the curfew. I'm 16 and my curfew is 12:00am (midnight) only cause I legally cant drive after then.
If your curfew is 9:00pm by law, then there is no reason that it isn't legit. It may not be exactly the same but that's like bending the driving age by 1 year just cause your only going down the road. If the laws is 9:00pm then that's the law, i wouldn't push it. If your parents made this 9:00pm curfew, I think you should reason with them for 10:00pm or 11:00pm.
Either way though in less then a year you'll be 18 and have no curfew!
12. If you live under her roof fair is what she says is fair. If curfew is 9 that means 9. It is a law you don't drive after 9, and your Mom could be introuble as well as yourself. There is no deal to be made. the deal is you do as she says becuase she is your Mom. If your friend just lives up the street walk, if it is not safe to walk it is not safe to be out.
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