i need advice and i need it now.
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1. tell her youll always be there for her
comfort her and hug her
let her cry, it doesnt matter, its not like that feeling is just going to go away
2. Don't tell her that everything will be okay. People who have lost a loved one hate that. The best thing to do is to let her know that it is okay to be upset and okay to cry, and let her know that you will be there for her when she is ready to talk about it. When she is ready to talk, she will come to you.
3. i know how hard that can be because i just lost my dad this year, just make sure you listen to her and make her think of positive thoughts and make sure you offer her alot of water and something to eat, cause a weak mind can't work on a weak body
4. be there for her without being clingy if she says i need my space give it to her this is a diffcult time for her so give her a hug and tell her your there for her if she needs you
5. This may sound harsh but making her upset is a good thing, if she is made to be happy granted it will make her forget this for a while but the problem is people repress things and not face it because its too painful, if your willing to be there for her then she will get through this but she will need to face it head on not hide away because repressing this could make her do it permanently and cause problems later on, she needs support right now and jokes and fun is a must also but you gotta balance the good with the bad if u get me, make her laugh but also let her tell you stories about her mother, encourage it, you do this and you will be helping her.
6. So sorry about your friend's mom. You're a good friend to want to try to comfort her. But you must realize that nothing you do or say is going to "make" her feel upset or depressed. She is going to feel that way regardless. She just lost her mom, and it is a terrible loss.
Did you know her mom? If so, you may want to write her a letter and mention some of the things you appreciated and will remember about her mom. If you didn't know her, you can ask your friend to talk about her when she is ready. Bring your friend some flowers, or something good to eat. Ask her if she would like to make a collage of photos of her mother, and offer to help her if she would.
Be aware that it takes a long, long time to heal from a major loss like this, so be sure to check in with your friend often and see how she is doing. Days that are very difficult are holidays, the person's birthday, and the anniversary of the death. Sometimes on a terribly sad day like that, it can be helpful to wear something that belonged to the person who died, or to make or eat a food that the person especially loved. You might suggest that to your friend.
I don't know if you or your friend have a faith community, but prayers always help, too. You can pray (if it's appropriate for you) for her mother's eternal rest, and for peace and comfort for your friend.
Good luck, and God bless.
7. Simply say I am sorry to hear about your loss---that's all you should say to anyone that loses someone. They are in a time that is jammed with enough emotions--there is nothing to say or do that really helps--just a sincere " I'M sorry to hear about your loss". In a week or two you may be available to talk if she wants to--but we all have our own way of coping and mourning the death of a friend or family member. Don't do anything else but be there--quietly going about your day. She may show anger or tempers may flare--it is normal for the range of emotions to change as time goes on. DO NOT TAKE OFFENSE TO THIS BEHAVIOR. She might just need to vent the emotions. Life has times that bring sadness to us all--your mom will be fine if she is allowed to pass this difficult time her own way--with you there to support her. Talk if she wants to talk--she will aprreciate you for that. Other than that--there isn't much you can do.Good luck
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