Im kinda shy when it comes to meeting new popel, or talking to new friends.Old friends im fine with.
I tend to be quiet when people talk to me. Or, I dont even try to talk to people I know, or want to know,
In the back of my mind I think people might think im annoying, or wont like me.
Answers:
1. its easy use comliments at first if you want to say something dont hold back. people like you more if it seems like you exist.
2. Go to afterschool activities or if u don't go to school, try a new hobbie
3. i would maybe talk to more people often and a little more time every day you'll get better because i was really shy with guys and now that i hang around the guy i like everyday plus more time everyday i feel more comfortalble around him
4. me 2. i guess u just have to be comfortable with ur self. if they don't like u others do so don't worry about it. try to think of something to talk about during the conversation, or just be random ( i do it all the time) like wat type of music do u like or something like that. o if u have any super long stories to tell someone cut them short cuz most of the time people get really bored.
5. Same here. Around friends and family, I'm loud and outgoing and funny. Around new people, I'm shy and intimidated. It's all about comfort level - for me. I have to know what a person's reaction to me will be. If they laugh at everything and everyone, I'll get along with them because I'll know they'll laugh at my jokes and they have a feel-good atmosphere. Around people that seem to look down their noses at me, or have higher social status - in school - I'm extremely quiet and shy.
6. im like the same way! wat i have to do is my friends drag me over [[and im not kidding, they litterally DRAG me over there]] to people that they no, and then i start talking, and suddenly u see them and say hi and it all unfolds, like a big fluffy blanket. ok, cheesy analogy, but still
7. There is no easy way, you just have to go for it. IT IS HEALTHY TO TAKE RISKS. Make it your goal to talk to 2 new people this week, and then something like that and hold yourself to it. Once you have broken that barrier it gets WAY easier. And if people get to know you and don't like you, then its their problem. It is not up to them to judge you, there opinion holds no weight in life. I listened to a great speaker once, and he said every time someone gives you a weird look or laughs at you think in your head "Who are you to judge me, no, I'm the judge!" Sounds cheesy, but it works for me. There is nobody who is better than you.
8. I find that the best thing to do is actually talk to students that play in the band if you're in school. Something along the lines of "Hey, you're in the band, aren't you? Don't you play the _____?". Just make sure you get the instrument right. Band players are flattered if you notice them out of what's usually a large group of people playing different instruments. Plus since the majority of band players don't have many friends outside of their activity, they're pretty easy to talk to.
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