The few close friends I have never actually talk to me anymore because of my introverted personality. I do like to share ideas and all but they don't seem to talk about anything other than personal relationships which I find quite annoying. One of my friends gossip everyday about people who I don't even know but what's worse is that she wouldn't even tell me the names of the people... It's like I have to guess what my friend's talking about. I'm frustrated by the curiosity of my friends. They ask way too much unnecessary questions like what's in my bag? Where did I just go? Why did I do this? Why do they need to ask so much questions?
They never tell me anything and they expect me to answer their questions that don't necessarily have to do with anything... Is it just me or do I have a problem with being too private? I don't feel there's the need to explain everything I do and it's not fair that my friends keep their own secrets...
It's late but I can't go to sleep.
Answers:
1. You have very shallow, gossipy, nosy friends with very low IQs. I suggest you handle this by finding new friends who like to discuss ideas. Take a college class and maybe youll meet a better class of people. Pick the kind of class that encourages discussion of ideas and thinking, such as philosophy, literature, or history.
2. Ask back: "Why do you want to know that?" Or just respond: that's none of your business. "Is this for your book?", is what I used to say.
3. From what I read-----"Friends?" Why?? They never have a conversation with you, they talk "At You". Gossip because they "Have No Life"! Asking strange things of you, WHY? "Gossip about you when you're not there?" You might want to aim a little higher, At Your Level? Move-On! to people that "Have Lives!"
"Why do you put up with this??"
4. You have to expand your group of friends.
But at the same time, "small talk" is one way for people to cultivate a friendship.
If they ask you any questions that you find inappropriate, you should just tell them you don't want to talk about it, period, and leave it at that.
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