Saving yourself for marriage...?

1. it's a waste.. saving it AND marriage life is too short to save anything for anyone use it or lose it

2. I think it's lame.

3. to me it shows that they had a good christan upbring and respect for there selves honestley i would admire a person like that . my opion?

4. Saving yourself for the one is not only classy and shows you respect yourself, but you also respect your future partner. Furthermore its a big turn on to your future partner to know that you haven't been all over the place.

5. personally i was glad that i had another partner before my husband. if i hadn't, the fact that he had been with other people and i hadn't would have bugged me. To me it wouldn't have been fair to me to wait when my partner husband hadn't. That is why i have a lot of respect for people that do wait. Good for you if you can go through with something like that.

6. as wrong as it is to say this...it's just not normal these days and kind of a turn off...

7. If people think that the only way or a major way to show self respect is 'saving yourself for marriage' then it really makes me wonder what their views are on sexuality and exactly how much self respect they truly have as opposed to thinking negatively about sex. I think that sex can involve lack of self respect both in and outside of marriage. I think that many people who do 'save themselves' for marriage are generally brought up in sex negative enviroments. Believe me, I certainly was! I attended abstinence programs sponsered by the church which were unrealistic in their teachings and probably do more damage than good especially in a day in age when sex before marriage is a socially acceptable behavior. Sex negative teachings can be harmful to one's self esteem and even future sexual pleasure, whether one waits or not. Especially since much of the teachings were focused on the so called emotional consequences of sex aimed at teenage girls. Things such as, "women only have sex for love while men have sex because it feels good" and so forth is utter nonsense that destroys sex in it's purist forms. Feelings of guilt or confusion about sex after marriage is common from these people and often religious leaders must give counselling to newlyweds for this purpose to erase the insecurities that led them to 'save themselves' so that couples can enjoy sex to it's fullest potential. Of course, some who 'save themselves' may be doing so in order to avoid responsibilities that come with sex. Of course, these responsibilities do not disappear after marriage, but many may feel that they are only ready to handle those responsibilities with marriage.

8. such persons are admirable and actually, are rare these days. consider yourself great if you are one of them

9. I did it. It was one of the best decisions i have ever made. Besides getting married to my husband.

10. okay, it shows respect for yourself, that you aren't just throwing yourself at just anyone. personally, i was ALMOST there....i met my husband, and he was my first, but we didn't wait until we were married. he had previous girlfriends, but as long as he had protected himself, never had kids with them, and was HONEST with me, i was fine with his past. i was 23, and adult, and made my own decisions. if that's what YOU want to do, don't let anyone tell you that you are stupid, or call you any names. i think that people who save themselves for marriage save themselves from a lot of crap.

11. I think it's fine and shows the kind of person you are. But if you're smart you'll think about saving yourself FROM marriage.

12. It's purely a personal choice. Not my choice, but many want to do that. Sex is such a huge part of a successful marriage that I would want to be sure she likes it and wants it and is enthusiastic about it. Now, you don't have to "go all the way" to find that out.

13. Nothing wrong with it if that's what you feel is right, but it's not a badge of honor, either.

14. Saving yourself for marriage shows that you have a lot of respect for who you are. Many, many men and women do not do that because they don't have that respect for themselves and for their bodies. They use their bodies like a piece of bait. I don't see anything wrong with that at all. That's what God intended us to do is to only give yourself to the person you are married to. I do applaud you for making that moral decision.

15. I think if you can wait that long than do it. In my situation, my husband had been with one other girl besides me, and they only had sex three times the whole 3yrs they were together, me on the other hand had quite a few more guys than what he had with girls and this still to this day is a problem for him. I suggest that if you can wait til marriage than do, I wish that my husband would have been my first all the time!

16. yeahh theres a lot less drama and risks if you do.