ok, so when i moved to a new city, a while after, they said that i was saying a whole bunch of crap about me to my new friends when i really wasnt. and thats why there mad, but i really didnt say bad thing about them, just that they were really nice, and we were like the best of friends. what do i do, because i dont want them to hate me over something i really didnt do?
Answers:
1. make new friends
2. so **** them ur in a new school find new freinds be the most popular person or her bff change and make the wana love u again
3. Have your new friends tell your old friends you weren't saying anything bad over the phone or in person or something.
4. Do you call these people FRIENDS?
If so, then why?
5. It sounds like you need to leave those old friends behind. Let them be mad. Move on.
6. i think you all need to grow up.
7. And this too shall pass
Don't get sucked into the drama
8. Let them go, they are not worth your friendship if they don't believe in your word.
9. The truth will become clear overtime if you really didn't do anything and you continue to say that, otherwise, you can always make other friends, they can never be in short supply.
10. be quiet and talk to them as they approach individually, if they attack for no reason as a group there will be one or two that are not stupid like the others,, they will be your freinds..or find new ones...they sound evil
11. get new friends, or try to explain yourself to them better?
12. If they hate you, they are not your friends.
13. Well if you say you never talked bad about them then don't worry about what they may think! If they were truly your friends they would believe YOU over anyone else!! Take advantage of your new school and city to make new friends!! Enjoy! Think of this as a second chance to make good, meaningful relationships!!!
Best of luck!! =D
14. Try talking to them. One of them should be a true friend and hear you out if not then none of them were truly your friend. And anyways, if they were mature they would of came to you and talked about things. like I said try talking to them and if that doesn't then just forget about them and make new friends.
15. If they are your real friends they wont hold it against you for very long. just tell them you didnt say anything and appologise by saying "im sorry if i hurt your feelings in any way"
16. your in a new city so why does it matter i can understand you want to keep your old friends but you already told them that you didnt say anything all you can do is stress the issue and move on
17. Dude, God loves you, always remember that.
18. i think you should get together w/ them like during lunch and solve this problem!!!
if they dont want too then make new friends your in a new school!!!
19. sit down with them and tell them the truth. your real friends will believe you, the ones that aren't will continue to hate you over a silly rumor. It's tough but some people really do believe everything that they hear. from your message you sound really nice so it sucks that this happened to you but I wish you luck. Just remember if they don't believe you after you tell them the truth then just move on, because it's not worth getting all flustered over people that don't believe you over a rumor.
20. if someone thinks you are aying bad words, just say that they are right and apologize. If they don't accept your apology, talk to them and tell your friends how you can be their friend again. When they don't accept that offer, just make new friends. Eventually, they might miss you and ask you to hang out with them again.
21. They are trying to manipulate you or make you feel bad for some reason relating to them not to you.
Do not spend any more energy on them, unless you have one extra special wonderful friend from your old home that you want to keep in contact with. Otherwise, what's the point? They'll just be dragging you down by their lies. Obviously someone from that crowd is spreading malicious lies about you. Let me guess. You moved on to a better school and they are saying that you are a snob now, too "good" for your old friends. What a negative energy drain. Move along girl. Better things in life await you.
22. Rent a copy of Gone With the Wind.
Notice how everyone likes Melanie, an angel, and no one trusts Scarlet, an opportunist?
That's the challenge. When everyone thinks you are Melanie they won't think you're a threat or a back stabber.
23. The same happened to me in middle school and I was crushed. What you have to do is ignore them and tell yourself that if they are going to be so horrible to you they are not worth trying to be friends with again. Find other friends through a club or something, so you have similar interests and before you know it you will forget all about your old friends. This is your life you should be able to live it happily with people who are nice to you and who you enjoy being around.
24. Basicallt it sounds like they are just jealous that you made new friends. You need to insist that you weren't talking about them and let them know that you will always be their friend.
25. Have a little patience.Let te storm ride for some time. If you overreat to it it may be their prejudices would be hardened as they would be thinking that you are protesting too much.Lie low for some time Use this time to go over what you told your friends in the new school about your friends inthe previous school you came from. May be unconsciously you may have said something which the new friends/old friends took as carping. If you come acrooss any possible innocent indiscretion by all means go to the old friends and apologises for something you might ave said innocently . They may believe you But as other answerers have corretly advised it is time for you to leave your past behind and face the present and the future though I know how difficult it is. Well, a train,while changing tracd,.does make some noise.All good wishes for you. It appears you are rather over-sensitive. Please try to be practical.
26. You're going to deal with this all your life! It's not just "school!" Ignore them! And do yourself a favor:
Don't ever associate yourself with the stupid!
27. I know this is really hard to deal with. It has happened to me as well. All I have to say is, do you really want friends that don't even trust you? I know, this is easy for me to say because I am not in your position, and how hard it is to get rid of your friends. But, do you really think that they are worth your time? If they are, then maybe you should just call them up and say, "I never said those things about you, but I am sorry that you thought I did." Hopefully that will work, and if it doesn't, then just forget about them because they are obviously not true friends. Hope this helps!
28. Honestly, if your old friends are going to stress you out like this, forget them and make even better friends at your new school. You have a rare chance to be friends with whoever you want so take advantage to it. I know it is easier said than done but it is the truth.
29. Make an extra effort to find out who told who what about you and what you did that you didn't do. Keep a journal of all you find out and who tells you exactly what. DO NOT believe any of what you are told because some of the people might be dishonest to you. Cross-check all information every night.
When you find out something, tell that person the true story, one time, and let it go. They may not accept the truth, or they may be messing with you.
Talk to a school counselor now, about the problem. Keep them up to date as you learn more. Ask them if they are aware of any groups that practice "organized mobbing".
You might not be the only one who has this kind of problem. Remember to forgive those who acted against you on lies they were told.
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