I do cheerleading with my friend. I'm okay with it but she is always insulting herself. If she didnt make a stunt, then shes like "I SUCK!" or "I SHOULD QUIT!!!" and she is always putting herself down. or shell hit me lol. I'll hit her back oncein a while but its really annoying, dont get me wrong, its not like I'm a doormat to her. How do I make her shut up? lol I know that sounds bad but its true. I tell her to be quiet and stop putting herself down, but she wouldn't listen. Also, I think that shes insequre because shes always like "THEY'RE TALKING ABOUT ME" if she sees a group of girls whispering.
Answers:
1. Go and let the rain pour, she'll change, give it some time, gal.
2. that negative self talk will defeat a person so quick. it's good you recognize that and don't do it yourself. tell her that the negative comments are infectious and they bring u down and the rest of the squad, so if she can't stay positive you'll be happy to work extra with her on the stunts.
3. hey, i think she has a self esteem problem. tell her parents and get her parents to console her or if its really bad, she should go to ur sch counseller
4. Have the hole cheer leading give her an a word for being the best.
5. ok you should argree wiht her when she says I SUCK!!! she say i know u suck so bad and lke did her but not bad
she will stand up for her self and then u could say if u thinknu suck then why did u say that or somehthing
just make her realize how could she really is!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
6. find a new friend and tell her that she does not suck encourage her
7. give her the yes no answer, that will shut her off, if she did not said to her u know u talk to much?
8. It sounds to me like she has low self esteem and a touch of
paranoia and it's quite possible she's pushing herself to be perfect because her parents expect this from her.
9. wow, you really need to tell her how you feel and not just normally. you need to sit her down and tell her strait up that you don't think that this is good for her and that she should think more positively
10. She is down on herself because from what i know cheerleading can be hard and people find it difficult, without knowing her personally i couldn't say why she is doing it but it usually stems from fear of failing probably because she isn't good at alot of things and wanted or should i say hoped that this would be different, the worry she has of people talking about her everyone ahs that because when you feel you did rubbish you then look for ways of confirming that its natural, you cant get her to shut up and it isnt nice to say it to her, your doing great by trying to boost her confidence granted it may not seem like its working and maybe it isnt but you never know it could help in the short term and not long so u r helping in sum way, good luck.
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