My husband and I have separate myspace accounts, we both have each other as friends. I am not using my page to have sex or to find a new man, but my husband is very jeoluos and gives me a hard time everytime someone response to my picture or post a comment. None of the comments are rude or disrespectful. Everyone that is a friend on my page knows that I am married and respects that. I don't want to get rid of my page because I have been reunited with old friends, new friends and lost family members. The question is what should I do to keep the peace in my home or what can I do so that my husband can feel comfortable about me being on myspace.
Answers:
1. we dont.
2. He should be the priority. Put some stuff on there about how in love you are with your husband so it's clear. But not personal info that strangers can read. Assure him that you love him and he can read whatever he wants on your pages.
3. give up myspace
4. Do nothing.
You have every right to have your own page.
He needs to grow up.
5. I wouldn't normally say this but give him access to your myspace account. If you've truelly got nothing to hide then it's a great way to reassure him of that. Once he has your password and knows that you don't object to him having a look when he feels the need he will most likely back off on the jealousy. Once he's confident again he will stop needing to look.
Good luck.
6. Your husband is clearly jealous and insecure. This is his problem. You're not doing anything wrong and you have every right to use myspace or what ever else. If your husband tells you that you cannot have a myspace he's made the leap from jealous and insecure to controlling, next step? Abuse. The man needs help.
7. Put a pic of the 2 of you together as your main pic.
Put slide shows of you as a family etc.
8. Get a joint one, add him onto yours. I did that in the past and it works better for the jeaously factor.
9. To stop the jealousy with my husband I gave him my password to my myspace page. He can look at it whenever he wants. He doesn't have one and could really care less bout myspace, but since your hubby has one I would give him the option of exchanging passwords, this way he knows you are not hiding anything from him.
If things still don't get better between you guys then maybe you should look a little further to find out wht there is mistrust there. My hubby gets a kick out of others leaving me comments, he always says it shows he has good taste and that it is a good thing he snatched me up when he did. Haha
I also have lots of things on mine that say how much I love my hubby. That also lets others know that I am not there to find another guy, just for friends. And I choose my friends very wisely.
10. Being married does not mean you give up your individual liberties.
The idea that you should have to "share a page" or give up your "password" is ridiculous. All that does is strip away any individuality you have.
You're not some animal on a leash, you're a human being who has the right to have privacy, be it in the physical world or in the virtual world.
My wife has her own page and it doesn't bother me in the least.
Why? I trust her 1001%. She is my wife, not my slave.
11. I would suggest that you mention that you are married in your profile. Also it is a good idea to have pictures of the 2 of you posted as well. If you are truly not into attracting other men, you need to be up front about it and let the browsers know that you are already taken. There are a lot of predators cruising the profiles.
12. Maybe he's guilty of something himself, who knows. I have learned that myspace can cause a lot of issues with relationships, whether you are married or not. My husband doesn't like mine either but he doesn't go as far as accusing me of anything, I use it mainly to keep in touch with my friends and family.
13. why don't you add some pics of the two of you...like the main picture. you could also give him your password. if you don't like that, make it so that you have to approve all the comments being sent, and don't approve the ones that might upset him. you could also make some changes to your profile that indicate how much you care about your husband. or you guys could just have a joint myspace account.
14. I have a page and he doesn't and he could care less. He has his own things to do online. Maybe he needs his own online activities so that he's not looking over your shoulder all the time. My husband is more into message boards and I could honestly care less about them. To each his own.
15. 1st up , give him your pw so he knows you have nothing to hide and he is to give you his pw as well and not delete any private messages may be sent through.
2ndly make sure what ever picture you have on your myspace page is respectable and your dressed appropriately , dont dress like an old granny but no nude shot's or sexy lingerie shot's or shot's that dont leave much to the imagination.
3rdly dont spend to much time on myspace that you and your husband can not take time to be loving , romantic , communicative.
If trust is an issue show him that you love him by respecting yourself and him and your marriage by doing the above.
16. Yeah Right!!! I let my husband do what you did and before I knew it he had a secrete account and made a girl friend On MY SPACE. MY SPACE IS A PICK UP PLACE WITH PEOPLE LOOKING TO HOOK UP. IF IT IS CLEAN AND SIMPLE COMMUNICATION YOUR LOOK FOR TRY TEXT MESSAGING. WHO ARE YOU KIDDING!!
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