I'm 16 years old and I'm a lesbian. There's this girl who I have been best friends with practically all my life. I haven't had romantic feelings towards her until about a couple of months ago. She's had a few boyfriends, and I'm pretty sure that she's straight... but I have a lot of trouble getting her off of my mind and I long to be more than just friends with her. We hug a lot and tell each other we love one another, but it is always in a friendly and jokingly way. She knows I am a lesbian, and comfortable with the idea, but I don't know how she would react if I confessed my feelings to her. It's just becoming so much harder to be around her and hide the fact that I feel differently.
So if you are gay and you have a straight friend (or the other way around) that you are interested in, is it a good idea to tell them about your feelings?
Is there any way to do it without ruining a great friendship?? D:
Help?
Answers:
1. Do you have any indication that she might be lesbian? I am straight, and while I don't have anything against gays, I definitely would feel uncomfortable with gay male acquantainces coming on to me (and I've had it happen) It would definitely put a strain on the relationship. That said, she seems like a good friend. Why not just find someone who might be more receptive to your advances?
If she's not lesbian, then I don't think you should do it.
2. NOOOOOO.You are a sucky friend if u tell her.Same sex relationships are sin.Turn to God.With Him in your life, you can change.Make God the center of your life, and the place you fix your eyes.
3. Does she know that your a lesbian? if so how does she feel about it? if she is OK about it then tell her that you like a girl that you can't tell but think is straight. she how she reacts. if and when she asks for the names say her name then give her time to think.
also tell her that you can understand if she doesn't feel the same way you just need to get it off your chest, and that you would still like to be friends is at all possible.
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4. No!! You should not tell her. That would probably make her feel uncomfortable around you. And then, she probably wouldn't want to be your friend anymore. What you should do, is find you a nice boy to fall for.
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