Hi everyone,
I am having trouble understanding my bf and his needs. I am 18 and he is 19. We've been having a great sex life, but now I find myself as sex toy to him... We are in love, we wanna get married in near future... but sometimes he just COMMANDS for sex without even realizing whether I am ready or not... and then when I refuse or try to make him understand he says that I am taking advantage of him knowing the fact that I am the only one he turns too...
See thats when I REALLY PISSED me. Hes not doing me a favor by turning to me... hes doesn't have another option... day he turns on to some1 else... hes gonna lose me... he can't afford that either... I donno we ran into a fight again, today! I think maybe I am too harsh on him... I donno... what do you guys think?
Before you suggest anything... Hes been with me the longest, he tells me that I am the bested thing ever happened to him... he tells me everything a girl would wanna hear... Hes ready to leave his fam. 4 me too.
Answers:
1. Love is the all time medicince for sadness, however it's ironic that LOVE can lead to depression. And loving someone and not getting love in a return can lead you to self-destruct, inability to work, inability to make friends...
It takes two person to make it work!
2. if he is COMMANDING that you have sex,then hes controlling and that is not real love. And why would he need to leave his family? If you both are truly in love,you will respect each others feelings towards sex,and anything else that you two will face in life.
Good Luck
3. sounds like marriage the man gets all the action he needs and if you dont do it someone else will
4. First off, Why buy the cow when you can have the milk for free. Second, what kind of love is he showing you if he demands sex when you arent in the mood. If he is selfish about this, then what else is he selfish about, either now, or in the future? If he is forcing you against your will, isn't that called rape? I think you have someone who is using you, and will treat you bad on other things in the future, and you need to grow up and think about these things before you even think about getting married. To me it sound like you are setting yourself up for either being anather battered wife, failure, or even worse. Please take some advice from someone that has been in a few bad realationships, get out now, before it leads to something harder on you.
5. Hey, well this is a case of not understanding the needs of each other. The love that's shared could be based on ideas that were develop because of the need to be supported. Now these ideas are starting to change but there is still an unknown of the foundation you'll share. Love will be defined once you and your bf successfully come out of this situation. More at www.onistsense.com
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