and every so often brings another female into the marriage bed? I know this is supposed to be considered a man's "dream come true" but is it really? What do you think? I can't understand it, but maybe I'm missing something? I'm mean, we're talking about a marriage, not a girlfriend/boyfriend thing.
Answers:
1. 7 hours ago
And no, it's not me!!!! I'm talking about someone else, before some of you start up on me!
2. 7 hours ago
I think this question is better put to another man.
3. 7 hours ago
It concerns me because I have fallen in love with the husband. Yes, he's looked outside of his marriage (me) although he wants to keep it on a friendship now. I know it's crazy.
4. 6 hours ago
Oh JadeyOz..... Way off!!! lol
5. I don't see anything wrong. if the couple likes it, let them worry about it. She may end up leaving him for a woman one day.....?!
6. I don't think it's really any of your business what other couples do in the bedroom.
7. It might be kind of exciting, but deep down it brings up the question, "Is my wife into women?". This is tough, because a husband might be able to compete with another man, he can't compete with a lesbian.
I guess as long as both of them can handle it, I'd enjoy the ride while I can if I was the husband. If the wife is a lesbian, there's a chance she'll leave someday anyways, even if she doesn't bring other women home. She'll just meet them somewhere else.
8. When two people are married and another person is having sex with one of them, no matter what gender they are, it's cheating.
Even if the other spouse thinks it's OK.....that's my opinion.
9. No there is no way he is happy knowing he can't please his wife that it has to come from another woman.
10. Agree with the other comments so far, why are you worried about it? How do you know what the feelings are on the part of the people directly involved. Sounds like it is their problem if there is one. They may be perfectly happy with the way things are.
11. If she's a lesbian, she should marry another woman. If she's bisexual and the couple has an open marriage or the man doesn't mind that she gets to have girlfriends while he does not, that's fine, sure. But that's only because I'm quite liberal and think that if people want to have open marriages or swing and it works for them, let them!
Of course, there is no reason to think that bisexual people cannot be monogamous. I think sometimes men and women use the bisexual excuse to have open marriages or to cheat behind their spouses back and if they get caught, "sorry hon, I'm bi!" Yea, right. Of course, in our society sexuality is grossly misunderstood and many believe that people who are homosexual or bisexual are sex perverts who can't control themselves. Until society has a greater understanding of sexualities, this sort of foolishness "I'm bi so I can cheat/My spouse is bi, so he or she can have a lover, but I'm heterosexual, so it's wrong if I do that." will continue.
12. Noone ever has kids and tells them, "well you can be a Swinger when you grow up". People are really just into their own sexaul fantasies so much more than having a higher purpose in life. As for your question. They can never be happily married because they are not satisfied by what they have. If it was just the two of them they would feel like theyre lacking. See the thing is the couple would never bring the female freind to family dinner and tell everyone thats their lover. or they would never go to work and tell everyone well i have a wife and a lover, and we all go to bed together. its just abnormal behavior and it is a sign of weakness.
13. Its not you its a friend and you fell in love with the husband.
So what your actually stating without saying it is , your female friend was bi-sexual and you were either bi-sexual or bi-curious so you allowed yourself to be the 3rd party in the fmf 3some and now your trying to find out if the husband leaves her for you were they really happy because if they were she wouldnt have brought you into the marriage ?
Am I following so far?
Either way a fantasy is a fantasy you were the 3rd wheel and honey it doesnt matter what your feeling for the man , back away now and do not try to justify any attempts at stealing the husband because he's so good in the sack , if he's anything like my husband , he'll screw your happy little brains out but if it come's to the choice between the affair (if its already gone that far without the wife's knowledge) and the wife , your going to lose , my husband chose me and he is still fighting to keep me.
He even has started reminding me when , how and why he fell in love with me and totally banned the other woman's name from ever being mentioned.
Move on #1 rule of swinging and 3some's you NEVER swing more then once with the same people , I learnt my lesson the hard way by trusting a cow who used mind games to get what she wanted.
LEAVE THEM ALONE.Best advice I can give.
14. Racer X is usually good at answering questions like this. Anyhow I am a married woman and I love to have a female sexual partner from time to time and it is something that my husband and I do together. We are what you call a soft swap couple (I let him play with other women because I like it but I choose to not play with other man because I like his goods only). So it really depends on the couple. If you (oh I'm sorry you want us to believe that this is someone else) are happy with your situation continue to do what feels good to you. The title "Happily Married Couple" is a matter of opinion. If you feel that you are happy then continue to do what makes you feel good and forget others opinion. Almost all responses are going to be bias as we all have different ideas of "Happy"
If you ever choose to talk me feel free to email me personally ladylaw_ladylaw@yahoo.com. I use to have a lot of questions until I became more secure with myself.
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