My best friend and I have been best friends for 10 years then this guy asked her out and now she dosen't tell me anything! She got her bellybutton pierced and the ONLY reason I found out is because she said "Look but don't tell becca because I don't want her to know" and I WAS SITTING RIGHT NEXT TO HER!!!! Her BF dosen't like me and I'm positive he told her not to tell me. I thought we were best friends and she could trust me but I guess all these 10 years she was lying. WHAT SHOULD I DO????????????
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1. those 10 years aint a lie but this new guy of hers seems to be an influencial voice, she listens to him and not you and i can see why your worried, you have been friends for a long time and it must hurt but you must get her by herslef and talk with her, friends don't do what there doing now, she is hurting you and doesn't seem to care and thats wrong, i dunno why her bf is, do you know him? or have said anything wrong? in the end sometimes friends need secrets they cant always tell you everything because they lose any privacy they have, and a belly button piercing isn't the end of the world, let her know you'll always be her friend and there for her, because if this relationship goes down the drain she will turn to u because u stuck by her.
2. Honestly, a friend who cuts you off because of a guy really isn't your friend. What should you do? Nothing. She has already shown you how important you are to her. And... you'll never be as important as the guy she's dating.
3. I have the same trouble with my best friend. Everytime she starts seeing a guy I'm non-existant to her. I just decided that I wasn't going to talk to her anymore either. I was cordial when we would see each other or when she would call me but I didn't indulge in any conversation about her personal life or mine. Finally when they broke up - she called all the time - but by then I realized that she was never my best friend to begin with if she was willing to treat me that way. So now, we don't talk as much - but that's ok. I know who my real friends are. I know it hurts - alot. But the best thing to do is move forward.
The boyfriend doesn't like you because he sees you as a threat. You are her best friend and can take her time away from him and he doesn't like that - probably because he's one of the controlling types. It's probably nothing you ever did - he's just that way and if she's "in love" with him and she's willing to do whatever makes him happy - then unfortunately you get the axe.
You don't need people like that in your life. When you talk or see each other but be civil. Kill her with kindness - she'll be sorry one day. Good Luck!
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