OK so i was soo happy when i first found out i was cheer captain. i mean im a sophmore and to be JV captain thats pretty good. there are 2 slots and my best friend got the second spot (but we are both the same level). well, its about 3 months into it and i didnt realize how hard it would be....i always feel pressure to do better and i am constantly fighting with my bf (the other captain) its just getting to be alot now to the point were my own team doesnt respect me! i always feel like im being walked all over because im nice!
Answers:
1. You really wanted to be the cheerleader captain and you know it would be hard, problem with things in life is that they dont come easy, i respect your fighting alot but you two should be able to talk and work it out, the pressure to feel better is due to your lack of confidence in yourself, you said yourself its hard and so you may feel your not up to it and your failing because of your own feelings, just do your best, forget what everyone else thinks its what you think that counts, you made captain not them so you have the ability to do your best and your promotion has proven that, also being nice is who you are and don't change that, it may seem people walk over you for it, trust me i have it but it doesnt stop me because being nice is the right thing to do, good luck.
2. dont be nice all the time. you worked hard enough to become captain, now show it.
3. I'm a competition captin and school captin. The same things happen to me because I was "nice". You don't have to be demanding but you need to let them know you are NOT there to be walked on. Tell them "YOU chose me as the captin. YOU decided to put me in charge. I am here to cheer and have fun." Yous best friend and you are just like me and my friend Katy. We fight over what happens. You may just be saying a helpful word of advice but sometimes friends can take it the wrong way. You and your friend may argue but if you end up not being friends anymore that just shows you that she wasen't a real friend because real friends hold on through the ups and the downs because in the end they know that you have their back.
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