The will just says that their estate will be divided between the two sons, but my husband is very ill and will likely not survive them. We also have two grown children, the only grandchildren.The old folks live in New Jersey.
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1. 7 hours ago
Because of his long illness, he is very underinsured. His parents are very old, and though their estate will be modest, any inheritance will make my very uncertain future a little easier. I love my husband dearly. The elderly parents don't like to talk about money issues -- however, the other son has dollar signs in his eyes knowing his brother is so ill. I suspect he would even try to keep the grandchildren from getting even a token amount.
This is why I ask. I am caring for my sick husband, and am now helping to care for the elderly parents. Far from being a golddigger as a few of the less-charitable posters suggested, I am most likely going to be in a very vulnerable position when I am left alone.
I've read advice that says to get the information from your elderly parents as a matter of good financial planning. Since the in-laws don't want to discuss it, I am trying to find out how other people have dealt with this.
2. no, his kids might, but you wont
3. between sons is what it means period. their sons will get it and if one is gone it will go to the other one all of it. I have never heard of anyone giving the spouse anything from a will. i know that my sons (4) will get stuff from me and my hubby when we leave this earth but not their wifes and my grandkids will get something from us. but not the wives. sorry you are not the one going to get nothing. take care.
4. They have to name you in the will in order for it to be legal.
If your name is not on there then you are not in line for anything. Doesn't matter if both sons die and if they only had the sons listed and then the parents die than the government comes in and takes everything.
5. No, you will not if your husband dies. If he dies they should change the will.
6. Whatever the law or a will says.
7. Your husbands share would go to your children.
8. have husband talk to his parents about updating will for contingencies
9. His parents might leave you an inhertance, and your children one as well, but you will probably not receive the share that your deceased husband would have gotten. Many parents, unfortunatly, would rather give the cash to flesh and blood. But you never know. If its been written in the will and its never changed and they pass away without changing it, your husband's share will become yours by rights of survivorship.
I can see these only grandchildren getting their dad's part of the estate if the will changes and you getting a portion of that, but then it depends on how his parents feel about you.
Because if its left to your husband, who is at the time of his parents death, deceased, since it becomes part of your husband's estate, you as his wife are considered the trustee, you are acting on behalf of a 3rd party. Your hubby's share wont automatically revert to his children, it goes to the wife first and should there be anything left when you pass, they would get it - or however your will designates
10. Laws from state to state may be different, but offhand I would say no. I am not a lawyer, but my guess is that if there is no other clause in the will, the entire estate would pass to the other son. If both sons die before the parents, my guess is that the estate would pass to the grandchildren.
I'm not sure how your relationship with your in-laws is, but you may wish to approach the subject with them. You can start by saying, "I'm not a black widow, and I certainly wish I didn't have to have this conversation with you, but if I am not mistaken, your will says ______. If you should happen to outlive him, what is your wish? I am certainly not lot looking for a handout. I just want to make sure that everyone is clear on your wishes."
Bless you and best of health to your husband. I hope he beats his terrible illness.
11. Sorry that your husband is so ill,but I think that it should go to the children of your husband.I don't know what the law is but that makes sense to me.
12. The fact that you ask this, shows where your loyalties are.
13. no, unless thats what they want
14. You sound like a gold digger. Why would you ask this question. Your husband is about to die and your worried about his inheritance. What kind of wife are you?
15. That would depend on your relationship with his parents. But your children would have a stake, if they are in the will...........
We aren't going to hear about you on America's Most Wanted, are we???????????
16. NO , unless your mother & father in law love you like their own daughter and own blood , his share of the inheritance will re-willed to your children or the surviving son will become sole heir and then it's up to him if your children get anything.
Your husband is sick and all your worrying about is the inheritence from his family? jesus and my in law's called me money hungry.What a shock.
17. 7 hours ago
Because of his long illness, he is very underinsured. His parents are very old, and though their estate will be modest, any inheritance will make my very uncertain future a little easier. I love my husband dearly. The elderly parents don't like to talk about money issues -- however, the other son has dollar signs in his eyes knowing his brother is so ill. I suspect he would even try to keep the grandchildren from getting even a token amount.
This is why I ask. I am caring for my sick husband, and am now helping to care for the elderly parents. Far from being a golddigger as a few of the less-charitable posters suggested, I am most likely going to be in a very vulnerable position when I am left alone.
I've read advice that says to get the information from your elderly parents as a matter of good financial planning. Since the in-laws don't want to discuss it, I am trying to find out how other people have dealt with this.
18. no, his kids might, but you wont
19. between sons is what it means period. their sons will get it and if one is gone it will go to the other one all of it. I have never heard of anyone giving the spouse anything from a will. i know that my sons (4) will get stuff from me and my hubby when we leave this earth but not their wifes and my grandkids will get something from us. but not the wives. sorry you are not the one going to get nothing. take care.
20. They have to name you in the will in order for it to be legal.
If your name is not on there then you are not in line for anything. Doesn't matter if both sons die and if they only had the sons listed and then the parents die than the government comes in and takes everything.
21. No, you will not if your husband dies. If he dies they should change the will.
22. Whatever the law or a will says.
23. Your husbands share would go to your children.
24. have husband talk to his parents about updating will for contingencies
25. His parents might leave you an inhertance, and your children one as well, but you will probably not receive the share that your deceased husband would have gotten. Many parents, unfortunatly, would rather give the cash to flesh and blood. But you never know. If its been written in the will and its never changed and they pass away without changing it, your husband's share will become yours by rights of survivorship.
I can see these only grandchildren getting their dad's part of the estate if the will changes and you getting a portion of that, but then it depends on how his parents feel about you.
Because if its left to your husband, who is at the time of his parents death, deceased, since it becomes part of your husband's estate, you as his wife are considered the trustee, you are acting on behalf of a 3rd party. Your hubby's share wont automatically revert to his children, it goes to the wife first and should there be anything left when you pass, they would get it - or however your will designates
26. Laws from state to state may be different, but offhand I would say no. I am not a lawyer, but my guess is that if there is no other clause in the will, the entire estate would pass to the other son. If both sons die before the parents, my guess is that the estate would pass to the grandchildren.
I'm not sure how your relationship with your in-laws is, but you may wish to approach the subject with them. You can start by saying, "I'm not a black widow, and I certainly wish I didn't have to have this conversation with you, but if I am not mistaken, your will says ______. If you should happen to outlive him, what is your wish? I am certainly not lot looking for a handout. I just want to make sure that everyone is clear on your wishes."
Bless you and best of health to your husband. I hope he beats his terrible illness.
27. Sorry that your husband is so ill,but I think that it should go to the children of your husband.I don't know what the law is but that makes sense to me.
28. The fact that you ask this, shows where your loyalties are.
29. no, unless thats what they want
30. You sound like a gold digger. Why would you ask this question. Your husband is about to die and your worried about his inheritance. What kind of wife are you?
31. That would depend on your relationship with his parents. But your children would have a stake, if they are in the will...........
We aren't going to hear about you on America's Most Wanted, are we???????????
32. NO , unless your mother & father in law love you like their own daughter and own blood , his share of the inheritance will re-willed to your children or the surviving son will become sole heir and then it's up to him if your children get anything.
Your husband is sick and all your worrying about is the inheritence from his family? jesus and my in law's called me money hungry.What a shock.
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