Hi, I'm a newbie here. I'm a single 45 y mom w/a 12 y child. Dated the same man for 6 years (some down time, not much). It's hard to work, raise kid and date. I'm tired of packing o/n clothes and playing spend the night. I want more. He keeps making excuses for not wanting to marry. He's had his cake and ate it, too. I lose myself every year. He's 4 yrs younger, never been married, no kids. I pursued him initially. We're taking a 2 month break at the suggestions of a counselor. I've basically gave an ultimatum - which I regret. But what if I had waited another year. I almost settled on living together, but it's not for me. A piece of paper means something - it's the ultimate compliment, the ultimate show of love for me. I'm sad and lonely and consumed with what he'll say after 2 months. Should I make a preemptive strike and just break it off not. He's a good, good man - good in bed, too. He's whiny though and I feel like a stronger person. If only there were one more Rhett Butler!
