I have been with her for 5 years, last friday she asked me to leave. She didnt give a reason really, we have been fighting a little the last week though. I have been going there but no answer, calling and no answer. I took all my clothes with me. Left all the furniture. Now I talk to here tonight and she said she will call me when she feels like it. What does that mean?.......I asked if I could come see her and she says she doesnt want me right now. WTF is this? Should I wait a month and let her find someone else or should I keep calling and knocking on her door?
Answers:
1. you need to move on, then when she 'feels like' calling you she'll be crushed to find out you're with someone else or doing your own thing and you've forgotten about her. go get the rest of your stuff from her and leave her for good.
2. That means she's cheating on you. Sorry to tell you, but its the truth.
3. she's probly found some1 else (sorry man :_(
4. give her some time and space. she is feeling smothered and you need to back away.
5. you need to talk to her and see wtf her problem is!
then go from there.
if shes for real, forget her! you seem like a sweetie, and obviously would be wasting your time with a b like that =)
6. Grab whatever you have left and go. If you keep bugging her she will get a restraining order. It is over.
7. Do you want to go back? Then keep calling.
8. LEAVE HER ALONE FOR A WHILE!!!!!
shes trying 2 process this fight and she doesnt want to talk right now give her some space.
SHE will call YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
love and peace XLil FergX ~~~Julia~~~
9. cook her a nice meal and bring her flowers and say you are sorry for whatever you did and that you love her and shes the one you want to be with. food and flowers are a way to a girls heart. good luck.
10. YOU BE THE MAN
11. give her space for like 3 days if after that she doesnt come around consider moving on
12. These are the signs of a cheater. She might be cheating on you!!
13. Dont waste your time on here... If you listen to most peoples advise on here you will end up alone and depressed..........Or married to a Dog living in a igloo in the north pole... Get over there and demand to know whats going on........ After 5 years she owes you that!
If she dosnt wanna be with you sorry mate but your going to have to TRY and move on and hope she realises shes made a mistake!
Good Luck and GET OVER THERE NOW!
14. i think you should give her a little space.. she may need some time to think things out. but dont give her too much time.. you need to keep reminding her that you will be there for her no matter what... give her a couple of weeks and then get together and talk about what is going on with your relationship... tell her how you really feel. good luck!
15. She told you what to do, so do it. You must listen. If she doesn't call, then you know that it is over. Quit doing things your way and LISTEN!
16. Lets see five years arn't you over due for marriage? Thats probably the problem. She is wandering when your going to propose to her.
17. I would give it a week, and thats all. If things dont change, get your funiture and leave for good. Good Luck
18. leave her alone, give her the space she will either realize what she lost or let you know that she doesnt want anything to do with you.... but if you keep calling and doing whatever then she will not be able to figure it out and things will just get worst and worst.... and i bet once you lay off she will wonder where in the hell you went....
19. She seems like she is over the relationship and moved on. Doesn't seem like shes even bothering to communicate with you to resolve your "problem". Best bet is to move on and stop being on stand-by.
20. well, i think you should give her space. she may just be going through something and is not ready to talk to you aobut it and you have to understand it. if you keep knocking and calling she will be annoyed so just give her space. or maybe she just needs to figure some things out. but you should let her know that no matter waht you are there for her and you will give her space
21. I fear it's over.
Don't you have a key? If not, get a locksmith & get your furniture, if you can...or check when you know she'll be home, and have a friend show up 15 minutes later with a rent-a-truck for your furniture.
Breaking up is hard.
22. then call her when YOU feel like it...what's good for the goose is good for the gander..what she means is, she'll call you when it suits her and not until, so what you have to do is don't bother, let her call you then don't answer, she's treating you like sh!t, do not tolerate it...stand your ground and do not take the bait, if she don't want you then it's time to move on...lay her at her own game, NO don't wait another month, by the looks of things, it seems that she's got someone else, so let her go and get on with your own thing...
23. I would let her know how you feel. Just talk to her. But it sounds to me like you should probably just move non. she sounds like a crappy girl friends anyway (no offence). I wouldnt keep calling and knocking that will just make her more annoyed. Good luck!
24. is she pregnant?
if you love her give her space
"hope for the best expect the worse"
25. Just my opinion, but been tere done that, and when a woman says she wants to be alone right now,..that usually means she needs time to be by herself and think.
If the fighting and arguing were getting worse and name calling or threats were involved ( you did this..you did that...)
it very well seem that you both could use a break.
IMHO...I would back off a bit, give her some time to think about what she wants or needs. She may start missing you, and just let her know you respect her wishes, privacy, and are there for her if she would like to see you when shes ready.
Go out on a "date" and just sit and talk when the time is right.
Good luck to you both ~
Chyanneraine
26. Sounds to me like she's moved on and does not have the decency, or the maturity, to be honest with you. Don't wait to see what she will do. You can't make someone feel something. They feel it or they don't, and she has made her feelings, or lack thereof, clear. You need to respect yourself enough to just stay away. Keep yourself busy and spend time with friends and other activities. She may eventually find that she has made a mistake and want to try again with you, but don't wait for that. While she is figuring out what she wants, you might just find the person that is truly right for you--someone who respects you and is honest with you. You deserve better!! Show her that. Good luck !!
27. My advice is that you leave her alone for a while. She's feeling like she needs some space right now, and that there's more to the world than what she's seeing right now. She's getting fed up with you for a moment, but if you two have been together for five years, then I don't think you ought to worry incessantly.
I suggest you wait a while so she has time to miss you. If you keep knocking on her door on your bended knees, she's going to get really tired of you, and end the relationship (I don't think you want that). So give your girlfriend some space for sometime, and I'm next to positive that she'll start to miss you after a while and will want you back.
Important: Just remember, when she does want you back, acting lofty and hurt and untrusting will just completely turn her off. When she wants you back, either accept if you still want her without any pomp, or refuse if you don't think it's worth it.
Just remember that she needs her space right now. Don't bother her for a while. Call maybe like once every three to four weeks, but too often. She will want you back, but give her time.
28. She might just need some time to cool off since you've been fighting a lot recently. When my guy and I get into an argument, I always want to get away and cool down but he never wants to. It makes me feel very out-of-control with the situation and even more angry than I was about the fighting. We've had to develop a policy where I say the magic words and he backs off and I can chill out before going to him and resolving the situation calmly. I'm saying all that because she may be feeling like that. I would give her a few days to calm herself and let her feel like she's back in control of herself. Then, call her and leave a message saying you want to meet and talk, rationally at whatever local coffee shop. Anywhere neutral, at a specific time. Make it a day or two later and then show up. She'll show up too if she has any interest in working things out with you. Let her say her piece and acknowledge how she's been feeling. Once you've worked things out, you need to let her know that ignoring you like that is not a healthy or fair way to deal with a situation. The two of you should come up with ways to cope that you both agree with.
Good luck
29. Sounds like she is wanting to call it off.
You should go your merry way and forget her.
If she want you let her call but don't hold your breath.
30. Be a man please. Stop trying to fall after her wherever she goes. If a girl ever told me she would call when she felt like it I would use some expletives and tell her to f off. And dont give me this 'But I love her' bs because she doesnt love you. Dont make a fool of yourself, if you dont want to get hurt then you have to be the one that can just walk away.
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