Why aren't they happy with me??

1. Just do your best and don't let other people get you down. Wanting you to be perfect is only harming you, and if they can't see that, then maybe you should point it out.

2. my mom does that to me too i feel you pain. i am a astudent and gets a- a and a+ but thats never enough. has your g-ma or mom had bad education. if so they only love you and want you to have the life the didnt . if not speak up if they say dont talk back to me. tell them that they have to listen to you for just a minute.. that made my mom realize. hope this is helpful !!

3. I know what it's like to grow up in a family where it seems like nothing you do is good enough. Even as an adult now, at times I still feel like I have to be a perfectionist to feel valued. The best thing that I learned to do is to really truly believe in myself. I know it is so hard when all you want to hear is, hey, you did a great job! Way to go! Keep it up! I'm so proud of you. But remember, your self worth starts with you. I will throw this out to you too. If you can, go to them and tell them in a calm respectful way how it makes you feel. That you really feel devalued as a daughter/grand-daughter and that you really are trying your best. Tell them that you so badly need to hear that you do do things right and that it is your love language. Everyone has a love language...a way that makes them feel more loved than any other way. Whether that be words, touch, gifts, quality time, or acts of service. When someone speaks your love language it is amazing! Don't give up on yourself. They are lucky to have a daughter like you! Believe and never give up hope!

4. You got the whole situation right in one sentence, they just can´t get enough!...And when this happen is not your entire problem is theirs. They should be with you, supporting you all the way in small and great achievements. But the problem is we don´t get a degree to be parents, so a lot of times we fail in that matter. Talk to them and let them know your feelings, sometimes that works. The important thing is don´t stop doing achievements for your own good, future and sake!.. Good Luck and congrats we know you worth it!...

5. You sound great just the way you are. Your mum and grandma either expect too much, or they feel like they have to say something about everything. I notice you don't say they've actually lined up lessons for you ... maybe they are just talking without really planning to do anything. Or, maybe they think they are really complimenting you, saying you are good enough to have lessons. My parents always made a big thing about how much 'better' I could be, and I was unhappy a lot when I was growing up at home because of it. It sounds like at least you are smart enough and strong enough to get angry, not sad. Seems like maybe you have seen through them and realise you can still love them, care about them and respect them, but lead your own life to get where YOU want to go! Good luck and best wishes to you :-) PS: 120 is a fantastic weight, who wants to be a stick?

6. Your mom and grandma probably aren't aware that they are hurting you when they say these things .Mabe you should tell them that you are you and not your sister and we all are somewhat different.Thay it is not fair of them to compare .You sound like you are doing great and losing the weight was really good just keep it up and be proud of yourself.As you are you and will alway's be yourself.Just tell them you like playing the piano just the way you are,and be happy that you play that good by learning yourself.(Lot's of people do)and wanting to do it.Ask them if they can say anything nice to you instead of being so negative.

7. I'm telling you this as an "old lady" - your mom and grandma love you and want you to become the beautiful woman that they dream you can be. They've been dreaming this dream since you were born. They can't help it and they won't stop. Now that I've said that - well, you still have to live with them, don't you? Okay, so lets address the specific issues you brought up. 1.) Your weight. I'm guessing that your mom thinks you are overweight. She wants you to be slim because she wants you to have confidence and to look good. Also, being overweight can lead to health problems like diabetes, and she doesn't want that for you. My suggestion is that you maintain the weight you are and try to avoid eating fattening foods. Get some exercise every day and don't obsess about your weight. Try to eat foods that are healthy for you. You might never be skinny but if you exercise and don't overdo the sweets and fatty foods, you'll be healthy and healthy is always attractive. 2.) The piano. It's great that you can play by ear, but if you get lessons, you could be a true prodigy. My boyfriend is a music teacher and I know that music is about more than raw talent - it's about craft and practice. A teacher can teach you how to read music and how to do things on the piano, technique-wise, that you haven't thought of doing. The rest is practice. Since you have an ear for it, you will do better with lessons than a person who doesn't. Probably, although you are hitting the notes correctly, your phrasing isn't correct, which is why your mom and grandma think you need lessons. Trust me, it won't hurt for you to have lessons, and if you already like playing, you will like it even more as you master the instrument. Your teacher will be impressed with what you've taught yourself even if your mom and grandma aren't. 3.) Most people your age have acne. Still, do you want to have it? If you have it badly, it can leave scars that will remain all your life. If your mom wants you to get it treated, tell her, yeah, let's do it. Clear skin is always beautiful. Anyone who tells you differently is LYING. So, if you can get it, why wouldn't you want to do it? I think, from your comments, that you just don't want Mom to dwell on what is wrong with you, because who wants that? I'm sure that she is probably having a hard time dealing with the fact that you are growing up so quickly and she can't stop or slow it down. 4.) My dad always wanted me to get straight A pluses. ALL PARENTS WANT YOU TO TRY YOUR HARDEST TO GET GOOD GRADES. They want you to succeed. Your mom is probably secretly very proud of you but doesn't want you to stop trying. If you SINCERELY feel that you tried your hardest, and A Minus was better than you hoped for, tell her that you tried. 5.) I don't know if your sister is older or younger, but I'm guessing she's older. Most likely, she also does things that drive your mom crazy but your mom isn't going to tell you this. If you didn't have a sister, your mom would compare you with your cousin, or her friend's daughter, or her boss's daughter, or the minister's daughter or the neighbor's daughter. Your mom is telling you that she wants you to be more responsible. Don't worry about who you are being compared to - even though it isn't fair - the fact is, Mom doesn't think you are being responsible. Only your actions can change her mind. I know that your mom and grandma seem like giant pains in the butt, but believe me, they love you and see all KINDS OF POTENTIAL in you. They know that the better they can nag you into developing this potential, ultimately you will be better off for it. I know that what you are wishing for is that they will respect your individuality and love you for who you are. Just remember that respect is EARNED and you have to work for it; and they will love you for yourself no matter what. They just want you to be the best person you can become. I'm sure if you talk to some other girls your age you will see that this is very common. You will survive it, and you will come out on the other side better for it. Believe me, it is better to have a nagging mom than one who doesn't know or care what you are doing!