I work in a call center where it is my job to help my coworkers with their calls. It's sort of a semi-mangerial position. My boyfriend has the same position I do. I've starting noticing one of my coworkers will usually talk to my boyfriend if she has a question. Not only that, but she always has to have her hand on him while she's talking to him, usually on his shoulder. I've tried to ignore this until the other day when she had one hand on his shoulder and the other high up on his thigh, practically in his lap. I don't know what to do. I don't think it would be appropriate to talk to her while on the floor, and I don't really see her before or after work. Furthermore, though most people know about our relationship, interoffice relationships are against the company's policies.
What is the appropriate and ladylike way to handle this?
Answers:
1. Confront her and tell her she's a s-l-u-t, while placing one hand on her shoulder and the other on her thigh.
2. She has also been letting him look up her dress and down her top, I'd say she's trying to steal your man !!!!!
3. Careful there. There is a chance she might be setting you up. Just think about it. If she likes your b/f, and she knows you two are together, and obviously she knows the office rules about interoffice relations, then she has all the power in her hands.
She is trying to make you jealous so you end up “exploding” against her. At that point, she can get you exposed, and probably will end up with you being fired as you are the one who started it all. And then she has all the time in the world to try to get him to like her while in the office.
Of course this is the worse case, but it is a possibility. The best thing to do is to try to avoid problems. Start talking to your man and let him understand you don’t appreciate how she is doing all this, and that he should try to stop her. Is not that simple, but he can just do some “hints” like pulling away from her, and stuff like that.
If that doesn’t help, then he should tell her very nicely not to get too close as people might get the wrong impression (witch is obviously happening). At all points you have to stay out of it. If she is setting you up, she will know you are the cause of his reactions, but she won’t be able to do anything.
In any case, bring a digital camera to work, set it to silence if it makes any sound, and set the flash to Off. Then try to take pictures of her while “flirting” with him without anybody noticing. Those pictures will be your backup plan and best weapon in case things get ugly.
Or, if you dare, do the opposite, become friends with her, and let your man be good friends too, and ignore anything you see. Just let him know you think she might be interested in him, and to watch out not just for your relation but also to avoid trouble in the office. This might be a better plan if you can “act” in front of her.
Good luck.
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