they are my best friends they dont get along they are like completely opposite i always have to hang out with each separately etc ana is funny great friend listener but she sometimes critizes people behind their backs it is usually if she doesnt like the person that much or something like that. andy is great to talk to very loyal friend you can trust her whatever you want but she sometimes says things to get more attention than ana and always makes a big deal about everything she also is very emotional SO today i arrived to school and andy told me that she would never speak to ana again because she said something about me! i was shocked to HEAR this but she always has lame exuses to blame ana and i trust ana very much so i didnt pay attention to andy and then i first wanted to talk to ana and she told me she never talks behind my back and i believe its true, but andy doesnt want to tell me what ana said. and i dont know who to believe WHO SHOULD I BELIVE ABOUT THIS (i trust them both =
Answers:
1. believe neither and go on with life
2. There are always two sides to every story, possibly something was said, but it may not have been a big issue thing. Personally I would leave it and if it happens again you will have to discuss it with them both together and explain that they are putting you in a difficult position as you like them both etc.
3. Confront the two of them at the same time. Or, try telling Andy that unless, she tells you what Ana said, you have no reason to believe her. Either way, you're going to get hurt and lose a friend, but at least this way you could find out once and for all who's true and who's not.
4. just dont take sides just go ur own way and they will work it out eventally
5. dont listen and if it happens again talk to both of them atthe same time and see whos story changes and stuff
6. So the one who says things to get attention, told you that the one who talks behind people's backs talked about you behind your back.
What an interesting problem.
First, if they are not friends with each other, it is suspect that Andy heard Ana say something about you. Unless she said it very publicly or to other people, in which case it will get back to you from somewhere else. But what I would do is, confront them separately and privately, and inform them that I intend to be friends with both of them, regardless of how the other one feels, and they will just have to accept that.
7. i am 23 and one of the hardest life lessons that ive learned is that if someone talks about people behind their backs to you, then they are going to talk about you too.... i dont know how old you are but depending on how young you are the girl said something about you.... its a hard thing to swallow but at least you have another friend that is honest
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