My fiancee and I have been together for four years. Happy, passionate, head over heels in love with each other. A month ago, she said she was getting a bad feeling in the pit of her stomach, so we took a break so she could figure it out. Yesterday, she told me that she thinks she's not IN love with me, but she does love me and care about me. That she thinks she fell in love with me for the wrong reasons. So I asked her if she wanted to try and fall for me for the right reasons and she jumped in and said, "Yeah we can see if something sparks again." But she also wants to be open to other things..people.
So we agreed on an open type of relationship. I don't believe she's not in love with me. We're been through hell and back for four years and thats a long time to not fall for someone.
Answers:
1. 8 hours ago
I think her fundemental views changed and since she's on 23 and I'm her first real long lasting relationship...maybe she wants to take the break and see what and who else is out there. Mind you we are long distance as well, but that has worked out perfectly since we talk everyday and see each other a good bit every yea.
Now i got advice from a friend and she told me to give it a shot. That nce my attention is on someone else....my ex will start thinking and she will realize that she's needs me as much as I need her.
Is my friend right or wrong? Am I right or wrong? And if i agree to the open relationship, where do I even start?
2. Just move on. She has no idea what she wants. Don't sit and wait for her to add two and two together.
3. I agree will with you, doesn't all fit together. I would just give her space, I wouldn't call, text, or even try to communicate with her. I would not do what your friend suggested, that is way to childish. Just wait till she contacts you. If she is still interested you will know. Good luck, and sorry for the pain you are going through. No I would not, I repeat not have an open relationship period.
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