You are a best friend of mine, and have known me for over 6 years. You have a positive, masculine image of me and have relied on me whenever you needed something.
Now I take you out for lunch and tell you that I am a crossdresser who wears womens clothing and secretly have been doing so since high school (I am a senior in college now.). I tell you that I dont have any attractions towards men, but I just wish that I could be a girl.
What would your reaction be, because I want to take my best friend and tell her about my self. I believe it is only ethical to tell her, but if reactions are bad, I might have to reconsider.
Answers:
1. I wouldn't mind at all. I would be a little hurt that you thought you couldn't trust me, but that's about it. If she's really your best friend, she won't mind.
2. why wouldn't you tell me before now? i thought we trusted each other!! cry cry......
storms off ( maybe) but forgives you and takes you 4 who you are!! <3
3. i wouldnt care because thats your best friend and they should respect you and always hav your back no matter what
4. dont tell her...it may freak her out...
5. well ive know my bff 4 like 10 years now and if she told me she was a cross dresser i would support her i mean its ur life and ur choice and if she doesnt support u then shes not a good bff
6. I Would respect your ways
7. If you truly want to know how I would react, then I would say, "You have nothing to worry about." I would love you anyway, of course.
But to be fair, that is probably not an average response. If this is something you want to tell your friend, then you should do it, but you need to be aware of how she might handle it.
If you are wanting to figure out how she'll handle it (and I am guessing you are), then maybe you should think about how progressive she tends to be about other topics--especially those in the gender sexuality field. For example, is she homophobic? If she is, that is probably a sign that she may not handle it that well.
But... having said all of this...
I think what really matters most of all is how important it is to you that you are honest with her. This is your "coming out," so to speak, and you should give it its due consideration.
A large part of me wants to say that if she does have a problem, then she is a crappy friend and you are better off without her, but I think this would be a blatant oversimplification. I think it's possible that even if she does have a problem with it, she may come around.
Ultimately, this is what you need to ask.... are you willing to risk the friendship to take it to a more honest level??
Good luck; I hope I helped.
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