Hello all, I just had an opinion question for you guys tonight.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for over three years, and he's been nothing but supportive and loving (everything you could ask for, right?). During the most difficult change in mine and my families life two years ago, when my grandfather died unexpectedly, my boyfriend was there to help pick up the pieces and help us, no questions asked. He changed his work schedule to do anything, and I never asked him to do so. He has helped me in so many ways, as I have with him.
My question is this: My parents completely and utterly despise him, and have no acceptable answer as to why (things like, "just because" consider as unacceptable answers - if you dislike someone, you have a REASON). I moved in with him last year, and although the relationship with my parents has improved, they still will not discuss my relationship with my boyfriend. How do I help them to understand that he literally is the best boyfriend ever?
Answers:
1. I think only time will prove that he is treating you properly and get the message to your parents that he is not a bad person at all. Actions will always speak louder than words.
2. take out your eyes and put them in theirs. you will soon see what they have been seeing give it time.
3. ignore them, if hes helped so much then hes proved his worth and he doesnt have to prove anything to them.tell them either be nice to him or dont come over.
4. They could be resentful that there is a distance emotionally between you and your parents because of your affection for him. Spend more one on one time with your parents, be respectful in your attitude toward them. Also your bf, if he's so supportive will see this as a challenge to him also to try to develop sincere attitiudes of caring for them as well as he has for you. When he is seen as an "addition" to the family and not a "subtraction" of you from the family, things may get better. and of course, he should be respectful to them as well and not talking all off the cuff as if they were his homies down the street.
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