we did it.he had been always saying that he does not want to do it if it will hurt me,and it did.now i always think about it and cry allthe itme.everytime he looks at other women i think of them kissing and **..he always says how im important to him and how much he loves me,but i just cant deal with it.he treats me super good,does everything for me.other that this it is a perfect relationship and we wanna marry,but now,im so unhappy..i talk to him,he makes me feel better,mbut then it comes back.sometimes im thinking about leaving him,but we've been together for 2 years,i love him so much,im afraid to ruin our lives.he says not to let this come btw our great love,but how can i not?what to do?its been 2 weeks since we did it..will it get better with time?now im just total wreck.i know every guys wants it.but how could he do it?he says i set everything up,its my fault,but i did it for him,cause he wanted it so much,he never forced or pushed thout,i was just sick of him talking it allways
Answers:
1. Sorry but you are nuts!
Are you upset because he looked at other women, they always do that! Or are you upset because you did it for him?
2. It hurts the first time for ALOT of woman. What do you expect, and yes it does get better and less painful. How much do you really love him if you are just so willing to leave him for something LAME like that. He OBVIOUSLY said it didn't matter, that loving you was more important. You are soo lucky that he is a good man ( he sounds like it )
You think you will find someone out there who is more understanding than that.
You should try rethinking things. I see absolutely no reason to ruin such a "good thing" (so you say)
Not trying to be rude but snap out of it.
3. go with your gut, hun. i can't decide this for you. first talk to him and tell him what you were thinking. guys minds work differently than ours do so your thought process wouldn't be the same way your man was thinking. if you really think having sex once will affect your relationship negatively you should end the relationship. but quite honestly, it sounds like he left the decision up to you and you made your choice. if you don't like him looking at other women, tell him. he obviously cares about you enough to have waited for you to decide the time. so if you talk to him he might try not to be so observant of other women. really you just need to talk about everything with him. don't make any rash decisions yet. best wishes!
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