Not too long ago, my girlfriend broke up with me, because she was interested in her best friend - now her current girlfriend. Well, his girl had a history of playing mind games and such. After we broke up, my ex started having problems. It began with her laptop getting stolen. The person who stole her laptop hacked/destroyed all of her online accounts and harassed her online friends. And then, just today, her house was broken into. She doesn know any one else ho could do this, other then her girlfriend. She even mentioned to me hat her girlfriend is her prime suspect. But she won't let her mom cal the police because she says that this girl 'makes her happy'. And so I - the dumped - sit on the other side of the country (its a long distance relationship) and hear of this, and am irritated because my ex is doing NOTHING to help herself. I try to be sympathetic, even let her neglect our friendship and make me feel lonely, just so she's not as stressed.
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1. 8 hours ago
Well, I just called and she's over at her girlfriend's house. Either my ex is stupid or she lacks a backbone. This all happened not long after we got separated - I said that karma would be a ***** to her for abruptly dumping me.
So what's my question? I'm not sure. I'm just looking for someone to read about my situation and sympathize. I guess. I still feel for the girl - we're 'best friends' - and i'm still getting neglected because of the drama in her life. Which I understand.
But why, for the life of you, would you still be with someone who fucked you over so bad?
2. Well, this happens a lot.
You are still really emotionally attached to and are caretaking her. And you're getting zilch in return.
She sounds, from your account, to have lots of drama in her life. And maybe she's used to people caretaking her, in essence digging her out of her holes she puts/finds herself in.
I know this is gonna sound harsh, but the BEST person for taking care of YOU and giving yourself a little hug is yourself. And you do that by saying you're a good person and you deserve relationships with people who are equally concerned about your needs. THEN you have to be willing to let go of those relationships where the person is unable or unwilling to nurture you.
Otherwise, you're just gonna be having your heart, your energy, hell, your passion be bleeding out like a gaping wound.
You don't need that.
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