ok about 3 weeks ago i got locked up (got in a fight while on probation, got stuck in there 10 days) while going out with the girl of my dreams, we both loved each other very much, but she decided to believe the rumors going around about y i got locked up so she decided to date somebody else to make me mad, i got out and she found out what really happened, now she is always upset because she still loves me (she says) but she is still with him and wants to give him a chance (plus hes frickin psycho and shes prolly afraid to leave him) and shes upset because im getting mad about it, me and him hate each other and we have come close to getting into a fight but we are both in a lot of trouble, and i personally will get put away for a long time if i get in trouble again. what should i do? should i just say 4get it and move on? or should i wait it out?(remember i love her)
Answers:
1. Well honey, do you love prison a lot? Because that's where you're going if you persist in obsessing over this girl and fighting with her boyfriend. If life on the outside appeals to you, then drop her and move on. Otherwise, you're looking at serious pokey time!
2. what i say is just ask her back out but make sure its the right time
3. I say, tell her that you really love her, and say that you just want to wait till this whole turbulent time is over, and that you just stay friends until you're sure that you're steady (legally) and until she's broken up with that guy. Thats what i would do, and you can't keep your feelings for her inside, just don't bring up right now, cause.... yeah that might make things bad.
4. She is with another man, that speaks volumes to just how much she loves you. You need to let her go and find a woman who will love and trust in you. In time she will see that he is worthless and she made a mistake, but by then it will be to late, cause you will have already found something better. I know it hurts and will for sometime, been in the same boat you are my friend , but you have to believe in yourself and your right to be happy. Its her loss pal!
5. He probably knows that all he has to do to get you out of the way for a long time is, get you in trouble. So he's gonna do anything he can to stir you up. Step away, if she really loves you she will follow, even if it takes a little bit. I know it will be hard but if she loves you she will walk away from him. If she stays with him she must not care as much as she says. As much as you love her, is it really worth going away for a really long time to beat up some guy she's gonna stay with anyway? Good luck!
6. If she loved you that much she would leave him!!!!
She may have some 'love' for you but she must also 'love' him, OR maybe just feel alot for him, but either way, if she REALLY did love you then there would be no competition - shes probably torn about who to be with and as you seem to be ok about 'waiting' then she is going to take her time to decide who she wants most.
If I were you I would cut my loses and run - women are f*cked in the head (as much as we don't want to admit it we are all the same) and we always want what we can't have, so by doing that she may decide that she DOES want you. But, if she doesnt leave him for good and come back to you then she wasnt in love with you as much as you thought and theres little you can do as you were never meant to be.
That special person you are really waiting for is still looking for you.
Besides, think about it, would you seriously be able to get over the hurt you must feel about her and your enemy 'being' together - that will probably cause alot of probs in your relationship and drive you mad thinking about them both together.
Move on - shes messing you around already - she aint worth sh*t!!!!!!!
Just remember...... the worst part of ending a relationship is the 'pain' - thats the only thing you have to overcome, people often end up taking loads of cr*p just because they are scared of a little emotional pain - its no big deal!!! Ride it out and live a happy life with the 'Right woman'!!!!
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To: SOONER SCOTT (above) - My BIGGEST apologies, I was meant to give you a THUMBS UP and I wasnt concentrating (starting to get a little sleepy now) and I accidently hit the thumbs down and I dont think I can take it back!!!!
Im real Sorry about that!!!!!! But that was a GOOD answer and I totally agree!!!!!
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