Is it time for me to leave him?

1. adoption

2. You have a family to take care of. You need to move on to someone older and more mature. I am not saying a 17 year old kid can not do those things but you even said he isn't. In all honesty most kids his age are not ready for the responsibility it takes to marry or be with a women who already has a child. For your childs sake get out now.

3. if u want someone that can do all this... then dump him... but yet again talk to him about it

4. Your just asking for trouble if he does not work and hustles for money. Get a real man.

5. if he is not ready to settle then don't force him into it,you may regret later.

6. You REALLY don't want to get into that kind of relationship with a 17 year old boy. He is no where near ready for that kind of pressure. You say you've been together 2 years but your baby is 3 so it's not his, right? Do both of you a favor and cut him loose. He needs time to grow up without a kid to worry with, and you need someone who is more mature and ready for that level of committment. The boy can still be your friend, but please, don't burden him with that heavy responsibility. You will only both get hurt. At some point, he's going to get tired of the responsibility, realize that he didn't create the trouble himself, and leave you and your child behind. Everyone gets hurt that way. Your best bet is to let him go, discover yourself and who you are without him and you'll find the right guy for you.

7. Give the guy a break he is only 17 and you want to tie him down. I have an 18 year old daughter. And I would forbid her to date a guy with as much baggage as you. A almost 3 year old son and your only 19. Just because you messed up your life. Doesn't mean every one else should mess up theirs. By setting up house while under 18. Do the guy a great favor and break up with him.

8. This is a difficult choice. What I say is that you should give it time. Even talk to him, say I know that you are younger, and I understand where you are coming from, but I think that we should wait until you are a bit more mature before we continue in this relationship. He might not understand at first, but he'll get it eventually. Let him live out his teenage life, and wait for adulthood, and then give him a chance, if you still love him. If you feel like you gotta move on, that's ok too. Just make sure he understands where ur coming from... -Hope this helps

9. well u got the right man because a man that work cant be with u all day everyday

10. Don't break up with him yet, he sounds like a good guy. Don't try to change him, he won't like that, and if he does, you won't like him anymore. But, you can tell him that you want him act a little more mature and that you want the relationship to start moving forward. And don't end a relationship just because people are giving you looks. I'm the whitest girl you could imagine, so is my mom, so is my sister. My step-dad is a big (6'2") black man. When we were out together, we got looks, but my mom and him never broke it off because of that. They love each other.

11. You talk about your son. Is this his son too? That makes a difference... your son is always going to want to know his father. You want someone to take care of you. Well, if this guy hustles to get his money, then he will eventually be in jail so don't count on him taking care of you. He should meet your parents if he is the father of your son. Nobody who works all day to support you and your son is going to be able to give you all the attention you say you need. When your son is old enough to go to school, are you going to work? Marriage is a partnership. You'll be earning money and so will your boyfriend - if you get married and when, not IF, he gets a job. Tell him that is something you have to have - a working husband. If he doesn't want to do that, then tell him that you have to think of your own security and your son's. You shouldn't be so close to someone who indulges in criminal activity - he could land you in prison, too.

12. It's time to grow up, dear, before your 3-year-old beats you to it. Of COURSE a 17-year-old boy doesn't want to move out of his home! He's a KID. He is NOT ready to be a husband, and he sure isn't ready to take on a girl (I won't say woman, because you are just too immature to earn the title) with a 3-year-old and work hard to take care of you. Hopefully, he's thinking about college, not about paying for pre-school for a kid that's not even his! Lots of 17-year-olds don't have jobs -- they're in school, finishing their education. You are expecting an awful lot from a kid who isn't even the baby's father. Stop using this kid for sex (which is basically what's up with this), and start thinking about how you are going to stand on your own two feet and be a strong example of independence to your son. I'm sure it's nice to have someone who "gives you everything you want and need", but YOU need to be taking care of yourself and your son, not sitting around hoping that some nice kid with a off-center sense of responsibility might take you on as a long-term project. I'd suggest that you start looking elsewhere for a more mature relationship, but frankly, I don't know if *you're* mature enough to handle a mature relationship. Think about it.

13. You have been together for 2 years ?? you have a 3 yr old babyy,. your only 19...if hes only 17 of course he dosent wanna movie out yet!!!! YOU HAVE A BABY. THINK hard about thiss!!! your still very young talk to someone like a therapist and your family needs to meet him. good luck *skye

14. he loves you. he just need more time before he wanted to settle down. he is only 17. most guys do not prefer to settle down so early. he still want his share of fun, to study, to work hard for his career. i understand that girls like to settle down earlier. have a home and a family. esp when you have a baby already. it matured your thoughts faster than every one else. but if you love him, wait for him. don't break up just cos he cannot do what you hope he can cos this is not his fault and no one should be leaving each other. :)

15. OK , I doubt you'll like my answer but here it is.. Boyfriend "is" immature..way too immature to consider marriage. You're pretty young yourself but since you already have a child..you must be a parent and force yourself to "grow" up..you talk about wanting a husband who works hard and takes care of you.. It sounds like your looking for a father not a life mate.. You don't just pick a husband off a shelf like a can of sardines. Begin preparing yourself to be "independent" ..get an education, a good job and take care of yourself. Once you are a whole person capable of taking care of yourself then you can begin to think about being 1/2 of a couple. You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders.. Good Luck. HTH Keith

16. first u said he gives u everything, and then u said u want a husband and an apartment, he's not giving u everything, how can he? he has no JOB!

17. it is time because you need more in life than just everything. Because everything isnt a house or the hope for more kids. How many people do you know that hustle and actually get to go to college and become a respected member of society. Not that many. You 2 are both young, but having a kid changes your priorities. His are having fun, yours are raising a child. Give him an ultamatum. Challenge him to go to college and make something of his self. Seperate yourself from him, so he'll know your serious. And focus your goals on higer things, like you dont want an apartment you want a house. He may become the man you need him to be but you have to show him how, by telling him and through example.

18. Go for the hard way, sure it hurts but think about your kid. And why save a tree when you can afford to save the entire forest right? Not to mention, finacially, he isn't of much help. So maybe, in the end, you have to support both your kid and him. Hope this helps you out.

19. not to be an ***. but you need to move on and get some one that will be an example for your child and you your self need to become and example for him. it would be different if this guy was working and taking care of u but think about it when he gets caught he wont be around anyway. so why wait.