I am a nice person..but here is the dilema- One of my best friends is perfect. She has gotten on homecoming court for the past 3 years, she is really involved. Well it seems like EVERYONE is obsessed with her that i hang out with, girls and guys. I dont see what is so special about her honestly b/c she is a little fake to me , BUT thats not the point. It seems as though whenever i say something NO ONE answers and they ignore me on purpose, yet when she says one small thing, they all acknowledge it. I just want to know if there is any way for them to at least acknowldge me saying something because i think its so annoying. It also seems as if the guys are so rude to me, and they are so obsessed with her. well i am sick of it so how can i a) get some new (guy) friends or b) make them like me more. its kindof complicated b/c we all hang out in this "group", silly enough they call themselves that too! pshhhhhhhh i need new friends. but how can i be more "liked?"
Answers:
1. Call people by their first names, always..Hi Karen for example and not just hi
People love the sound of their names.
Ask interesting things about them and remember it and ask the next day about it.
Listen...people love people who pay attention to them!
It will work
2. This is going on with me. I know exactly how you feel. Kind of mad and lonely. All my friends only talk about her. shes so great apparently. Shes my bff too. We cant let it ruin our friendships. So just join clubs and get involoed. Just be yourself. Try to embrace your talents. Get good grades and make a rep for yourself. I have the EXACT same situation. funny huh. Good luck. ( to the both of us)
3. try being more active in your community and at your school.... the trick is to make yourself noticed it doesent happen by wishing it would you know? For example, when you and your "group" are all hanging out push her aside talk about he daily gossip if she is saying something and stops for a sec add your opinion and MAKE IT HEARD!!!! If they ingnore you say it again if you dont like doing that then just talk to a few people in your "group" slwoly by doing this you will make friends with each person one at a time.. really talk to each of them get to know them and let them know you! slowly you will have more and more people that will talk to you because they know you!
Another thing is that even though you may not know it your being WAY to shy? like i said before be out there the point is to stand out and blend! voice you opinions and let them be heard! Join student councils sports that are popular like dance hockey basketball soccer swimming gymnastics golf tennis whatever is POPULAR.
In the paragraph above i said join teams... also something that goes with that is how you said "i need a new group of freinds." them get some! Joining things you will make friends join things you actually like to because you'll be meeting people who have same intrests! get friends from outside of school join voulnteer things then you will have friends there to fall back on! Just TRY ..... PUT YOURSeLF OUT THERE if you think it is necessary to get new friends why not? HAVE FUN & Good luck
hope this helped!
4. This is gonna sound long term, and it is.
Popularity, particularly in high school and junior high school, fades. You're in a hormonal period and guys in particular are raging hormonal androids, focused on one thing in general.
So, start with the premise that you probably aren't going to be able to equally compete with "the Queen." Set your sights to developing real relationships with real people, not on status and looks and superficial stuff.
Figure out what you're good at and what you love to do. Focus on that and develop relationships that come out of your passion, not your desire to compete.
Let's say you love acting. Throw yourself into school, community productions. Enjoy yourself and meet people who will be attracted to you because you both are interested in the same thing, and because you can't be ignored because you're so much fun to be around.
The other good thing about following your passion is that it'll help you in the long run in life. People who are the most successful are doing something they really like and not just following the herd.
5. If there is one person that you want to be liked by in particular, try and talk about things that you both like and get comfortable with each other. I know the feeling. i have this friend named Sarah. Whenever I am near her, people never realy talk to me, they talk to sarah. They are always laughing at things that Sarah says. I'm just not as funny as her, but it is hard to be laughed at all the time! When I am with her, she is the only one that will actually talk to me. So it's kinda hard. Don't worry, just be yourself! I did that too this year, I joined the musical and I made 3 great friends that are all so nice, and love me for who I am! We all love to do the same things! my friends aren't the fondest of them, but's thats ok beacsue they like me for who I am. I hope it works for you too!
6. I had a similar problem with some friends too. We used to hang out all the time right and then he began hanging out with his friends from the basketball team which completely changed him. It seemed as though everyone wanted to talk to him all the time and he wasn't really fake though but did things that he didn't used to do before. Then when we were talking in a group I would say something and no one would answer they would ignore me like they didn't hear and keep talking. It seems like you are hanging out with the wrong friends. They seem to be more into what it is they are into and not interested in you no more. Make some new friends are try to make a change that will make you like your friend he everyone is obssessed with.For me it was easy because I stayed behind while my friend moved on. We still talk to each other now and then though. Making that change to be more liked would probably make you fake if you know what I mean and if your okay with that change then begin to act like your friends and dress like them and change your style and have nice smooth conversations.
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