I have a problem on my conscience....?

1. 8 hours ago
ladylady: I do care & I feel really bad that's WHY I'm asking other's opinions

2. 8 hours ago
I more or less agree that I should get in contact with social services,The problem is I don't know where they live.My Mom is very secretive about that.Ive asked her many times. I have voiced my concerns about him not going to school & she more or less tells me it's none of my business how she raises him & that there's drugs & guns in schools.

3. 8 hours ago
Yeah hearing everyone opinions has allowed me to see what it is I need to do.Tomorrow I will contact someone about the situation.

4. This is your brother you are talking about...yes? He should be in school and since neither one of you want to trouble yourself...Take him to the state and drop him off so he can go into foster care...And hope he gets a better family then he has....sorry truth hurts sometimes.....You should feel bad....

5. If your mother doesn't straighten her parenting skills out, you're not the only child that she'll have that limits time with her.

6. Unfortunately there is no law against being a crapppy parent. And I doubt that anything your mother has done would qualify as child endangerment. Yeah I guess you could talk to your mother and express your concern, but at this point I doubt she'd even care or take you seriously. It's a sad situation, but you very well might want to call child services to see if there's anything you can do. Any chance of him coming to live with you? Not going to be as harsh as the answer above, but I know if it was my little brother I wouldn't willingly leave him in a situation like that.

7. You can't help but get overly involved. Overly involved is a luxury you can't afford when it comes to a young person who needs your help and you are one of the few family members he has. Can you talk to your mother and ask her what's going on? Can you ask her why he hasn't been in school? She may be in the midst of a nervous breakdown of sorts because no mother wants to stand by and watch her child fall behind others when a public education is required in this country. If your younger brother is filthy dirty a lot, try to establish a sisterly relationship with him and every time you visit, make him take a shower and put on clean clothes. He may not have learned yet that all this is very important because the impression you make on other people is important. I feel so bad for this kid. He really is being neglected, which is a form of abuse. The difference is that the parent is usually so stressed or drug addicted that they don't have time and don't even realize the extent of the neglect. Please take time on a regular basis yourself. This child needs you.

8. get overly involved? that's your brother. get involved. spend time with him. he's only 10 and cant fend for himself. someone's gotta speak up for him...and you're his blood. please do.

9. you should sit down and talk to your brother to see why he is not going to school. then you will need to discuss this with your mother as to why she is not making him go to school. she maybe and he maybe sneaking out - first find out - then you will need to take the next steps. if your mom knows why he is not going to school advise her that she is breaking the law and that she could face some serious fines and possibly jail time. but first talk to both of them separately then take necessary steps - good luck

10. Could you annomously contact social services and inform them of the situation and have them check it out? He obviously is a child in need of care and I would think it would make you feel guilty about not doing anything to help him. That is what I would do. Or go to the SRS office in your town. Or even a police officer and be adamate that this is confidential so no one knows who turned her in. You need to help him.

11. Tough place for someone your age to be. Think about what's best for your brother. Not going to school, not living in a healthy environment, and eating junk are all going to cause some longer term issues. I'd contact the county social services, or the counselor at the school he should be going to and ask for some advice before doing anything else. Not taking any action will likely be a bigger regret than anything else that might happen. Good luck, and let your conscience be your guide!

12. That is something that should be reported. So many people these days see things happen before there eyes and they just look away as if nothing happened. Not only that but your brother is heading down a dangerous road leading to obesity and without proper education what will he be able to do later on to support himself?

13. Call child protective services in the state that you live in. They will do an investigation. If they believe something is wrong they will offer your mom classes on parenting and nutrition. When you make the complaint make sure you are very clear on what your concerns are. Good luck!! P.S I know you say you don't want to get too involved but, this is your little brother, isn't he worth sometime out of your day to make sure he is well taken care of?

14. How has she not been in trouble for truancy? This is a really big deal and you knowing about it and not doing anything makes you almost as guilty as your mom. You need to speak up. Save your helpless little brother to hell with the mom you don't even have much of a relationship with anyway. All you have to do is make a phone call.

15. Your mother is guilty of neglect of your brother. A ten year old should be in school. You should contact your brother's school and tell them what is going on. But be prepared. Once the authoriites are alerted, your brother will be taken from your mother's home. Do you have relatives who could take your brother in? By making that phone call, you will be giving your brother a chance at a life he deserves. Your mother is slowly killing him with junk food and at 10 he knows he should be in school. What is the level of his self esteem? What kind of a job will he be able to get one day without an education? I know you don't want to get overly involved, but that phone call could be the best thing that ever happened to your brother and it will clear your conscience. Do the right thing!

16. Wow. This must be very hard for you. Your brother really needs you to be involved in his life, wether your mom is or isn't being neglectful. Whatever she feeds him, he isn't going hungry- maybe you could offer to go grocery shopping with or for her to "help her out." And when he's with you, throw the burgers away and make sure he eats properly. Whatever you do, don't tell him he's gaining too much wait because insecurity will not make it any better. Just try your best to lead by example. As far as his schooling goes. . . Before you accuse the parent of neglect, ask your mom if she's home-schooling your brother. If not, then I suggest you report this matter to the state. Chances are, she'll get him registered the next day. How difficult a decision this must be for you. Doing what's right for one person sometimes means you'll hurt another. But your brother is just a kid. It's not his responsibility to make these choices by himself.

17. Oh girl, I'm so sorry. This is not easy, it's your brother. You're more intelligent than your mother. She's making a lot of mistakes. Your bro has to go to school. Try to contact either family members or other help, you can't leave this like that. And you don't know where she lives, what a mother!