Sooo, I know this is a ridiculous question to ask on here, but I am at my wits end! I am in my early twenties, very fit, very well educated, very well groomed, very well dressed, etc. etc. I know I sound like a braggart, but I do have a point, I swear! People tell me all the time that I'm sweet, funny, and attractive. Plus, I'm very feminine (wear heels and skirts more than half the time) but don't mind getting dirty doing outdoor activities, etc. either. BUT I CANT GET A DATE! Granted, I'm not asking that many guys out and getting turned down, but no men my age NEVER approach me to ask me out. Honestly. NEVER. The only guys who show an interest in me are old enough to be my father. And I cant figure out what I'm doing wrong! At the rate I'm going, I'm either going to end up an old maid or the girlfriend of a man who is twice my age! What kind of gal are guys looking for anyways?
Answers:
1. 9 hours ago
Oh, I forgot to mention. I'm not into the whole bar/party scene. Maybe that's my problem?
2. 9 hours ago
Oh, I forgot to mention. I'm not into the whole bar/party scene. Maybe that's my problem?
3. What is your age range for a potential date?
Maybe you are too elegant/mature for guys in their early 20's. They prefer the party girl that drinks, flirts and sleeps around.
Also, maybe you give off a "keep away" vibe without realizing it. Without meeting/knowing you, there is no way to make a good determination.
If you want more advice, feel free to email me.
4. Perhaps your good looks intimidate guys your age. Take the bull by the horns and ask out guys that you like (as you say, you're rarely turned down). Guys *love* women who show initiative in relationships.
5. You need to find someone like you... and he wont be in a bar! If you are very well educated, you may be intimidating other people. Why don't you ask guys out? There is no guy out there that does not like to be asked out. You may also want to try some online sites (like eHarmony). I believe folks like you (and me :D) should start online as it makes it a lot easier to meet people there.
6. Story of my life. I met someone at work, been together 5 yrs.
If that isn't an option for you, you may have to do the asking. Sometimes guys are intimidated by well-adjusted women. I could never imagine "hooking up" with some random guy at a bar. Just network, maybe someone at work, or a friend of a friend can hook you up with someone.
Don't settle! Good luck!
7. i would say intimidation
8. i wouldn't mind dating u the way i c it a lotta guys re taken i have a smiliar problem if ure intrested well email me or sumtin
9. Maybe you come across as high maintnace, and most guys dont want to deal with that. and the older guys prob have better means to deal with it. Maybe they are just intimidated by you, a smart, beautiful girl, guys dont like to be shot down. it could be alot of things but those are prob the two most likely, and its not like ur bragging, confidence is good to have.
10. I'm a fellow chick weighing in here (sorry!) But you have a problem that is SO common, and I was in your shoes (except I was 31 and divorced)! Try casting your net a little wider. You're a great candidate for match.com or another internet dating service. If your description is accurate, you'll slay them. I don't make my living from my looks, and I'm a touch overweight -- but I had NO TROUBLE getting dates with cute, college-educated professionals within 10 years of my age. Go for it - post a recent, honest picture of yourself, show a sense of humor in your profile, and they will come. Good luck!!!!
11. somtimes the best thing you can do is wait. some men dont know a good thing when they see it
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