Im 15 and I will be 16 in a month but i like this guy who is 14. He looks the same age as me so at the time I didn't even know he was younger. And now im scared to date him because i think people wont except and younger guy going out with and older girl at school. Also im black and he is white and you never really see a black girl going out with a white guy. I mean I see a older guy going with a younger girl all the time. And you also see black guys dating white girls alot also. I feel like it will be really different for people to see us dating. I don't know how they will respond to that... its making me sort of nerves to go out with him. He keeps asking me why i wont date him and i dont want hurt him...i just feel like we won't be excepted.Do you think this is a problem?
Answers:
1. Sure
2. Good job.... Now everybody can see that u don't give a crap and neither should they.
3. age dosent matter if u like him alot it shouldnt matter beacuse u really like him and if your worried about what people say then ignore it all
4. Colour, doesn't matter.
Age? Not as though you're 10 years older than him, absolutely nothing wrong with that.
5. It isn't a huge problem. Everyone deserves a chance. Make sure that you talk to your parents about sex a little bit though. Being adult decision-makers is important these days...
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6. Forget the rascism, it has nothing to do with color WE ARE ALL HUMANS no matter what color, and if you like this guy and he likes you back i say go for it! Don't be worried about what people say. Age has nothing to do with love. I know women that are 25 years older then their husbands. And if your so worried about what people will say, So what you only live life once.
7. Don't worry about it, this isn't the 1920's. I'm a product of of a bi-racial marriage (white and asian).. As for the age thing.. Its not THAT big of a leap.. I'd understand concern if you were 20 and he was 14, but its just a couple of years.. After high school it will just seem 'normal'. Do whatever your heart tells you, because usually its right.
8. You are so young that you shouldn't even be worrying about what others think. You have to worry about what you and he think. If you two like each other, let others lump it!!!
I am white, married to a black man. We've been married almost 20 years. He is younger than me. I don't care what people say. Heck, they talked about Jesus, why wouldn't they talk about me?
Worry more about you and him and how the two of you feel. Think more about the positive and less about the negative and things will work out fine.
I never dated anyone for the color of their skin. Only for what was in their mind and heart.
You sound like a smart girl. Follow your heart, not stupid peoples closed minds.
Good luck with the boyfriend!!
9. Good grief! It's only a date. Go for it.
10. this is not a problem! go for him girl!!! and as long as ur not wayyy older than him its fine!! and who cares what other ppl think! if they cant accept it Who Needs Them?? good luck my friend!
11. you shouldnt care wat other people think!! if u like him and he likes u its fine im dating a younger guy to! theres not alot of us out there who can do it its fine i love my bf and he loves me thats all the matters. you shouldnt care wat ofther ppl think cause its really not there bissness :)goodluck hope this helped!!!!
12. the white and black thing isnt an issue. however...i know its unfair, but it really is weird when the girl is older. plus, if you do go ahead with it and date him, when you break up other guys will see you as pathetic, not trying to be an *** but its true. it makes it seem like you couldnt get with a guy your age or older, which probably isnt even the case. just tell him hes too young, hes 14, he'll get over it.
13. ago is not a problem because if you love him it do not matter. at all
go on go out with him.and do not care what other people about you.because some day somebody will be making fun of them.and do not care if he is white pink purple red it do not matter. what matter is your love for him.and if they do not excepted who you like forget about them because god will except you. GOOD LUCK:)
14. hey; i just want you to know that I AM IN THE SAME SITUATION AS YOU.
there's this guy whom i met at my tuition and he's turning 15 this coming february. I've just turned 16 in sept.
I'm really tanned because i do loads of sports and i'm a eurasian and he's half japanese and half chinese so he's quite fair. He has told me his feelings about me and frankly i was really touched because he's also very polite and genuine and he is the only guy who remembered my birthday and went all out to make a chandelier out of shells for me.
Yes occasionally i do feel that it is strange and i feel that people do smirk/gossip about older girls dating younger guys but think about yourself. If you really do like him, why bother,really. Because ultimately its about your happiness and not about pleasing others.For me, its really painful to give up something just because of the fear of being unable to 'fit in' or date an older guy.
If it makes you happy, then go ahead. Age should never matter in the first place. Its about the inside. Take for instance the comparisons of women. I hear people judging us women based on looks. But hey, you never really know whats inside till you talk to them and befriend them right?
Well, i fully support you! : D
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