I just asked this girl that I work with out. I really want to impress her but not to overdo it and blow it. This is the first date that I have ever been on and it took a lot of courage to just ask her out. I am a shy person. I would like to know what would be a good date? I was thinking about a movie. Maybe or maybe not? Please help. Oh and I am 19 and she is 20.
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1. I can understand you wanting to impress her, but not to overdo it. However, when I think of people going to a movie as a date, I see two people sitting in a dark room, staring at a screen in front of them, and minimal talking between them. I don't mean to pick fun, but going to a movie is not what I see as a good first date. Maybe if you end up going steady with this girl, you'll be able to go places and you'll be happy just spending time with each other and holding each other's hand. However, this is a first date, so let's talk about that.
I'm not exactly sure how you define dating, but I see it as a way to really get to know someone else and see how compatible they are to you. In other words, when I go on a date with someone, I want to get to learn more about them and spend some quality time with them.
Also, this could be the first time she has ever gone on a date. No matter what happens and who comes into your life, you'll remember your first date (believe me). Now, I'm not encouraging you to put on a show or be someone you're not. I'm just saying that you should make the date different. If she always does some activity Friday nights or always walks by the <insert body of water or part of town>, think of some other activity.
Maybe your date could be dinner and board games. Maybe you'll find a place to make arts & crafts (if you're in college, check your student union for free weekend activities). Maybe you can show her a really good lookout spot over the river that she's never been to before. It doesn't need to be pricey, it just needs to be something that's not in her daily/weekly routine (that way, she won't be "going through the motions", and later on, she'll remember you as a guy who didn't just do the cliqued things).
So yeah, I hope that wasn't too nerdy. I'm glad to hear that you got the confidence to ask a girl out on a date for the first time. I hope that you have that same confidence on the date (it's an attractive characteristic) and I hope you can find a way to make your first date memorable and a way to get to know her.
Best of luck!
2. Hmm movies are nice, but make sure you include an activity before and after the movie where you can get some face-to-face time to talk and get to know each other. Maybe dinner before, and hit up a nice coffee house afterwards.
3. Maybe a movie at your house so you can chill on the couch, watch the movie and talk whenever. When you go to the movies, I always feel like you can't talk. At least at home you will feel comfortable. Another good date would be going to an aquarium/zoo. I'm in Jersey and the weather is still warm ... then u could actually talk and get to know each other. Good luck!
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