me and my boyfriend have been together for two years, about a year ago he started acting strange and i noticed that he always stared at this girl, i didn't care much, next thing was that he started talking to her, everytime they would talk he would get this huge smile on his face that I had never seen before, his face would glow everytime he saw her, i didn't think it would go beyond that, one day i called him and i asked him what he was doing like i usually do and he said he was talking to her on the other line. i got so furious, because i knew all along he had a thing for her, after this i broke up w/him tellin him that i couldn't believe he would ask for her #. this hurt me so bad because she's a beautiful, curly blonde surfer girl, i have to admit. it caused my self esteem to go down real low, anyway that was about 1 year ago and i still cant let go of that, my self esteem is still horrible and idk what to do..im still with my bf, but i hurt evryday.does anyone know how to heal dis
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1. look in a mirror and pick all your good points.. disregard all stuffs which are negative.. then free your mind from anxiety breathe in and out and have a mantra like ' i am strong and no one can turn me down'.. this works..! think about it if you and your bf still together that means he chose you over her.. that's a great accomplishment is'nt..? if this thing won't work try to seek help from a psychologist, so that youre assured that your health don't get affected..
hope this helps!
2. You need to forgive him for what he did if you want to move on. Forgiving is not based on emotion, it's based on a decision. Once you do that then you will be ready to do the next step, which is, to tell him how you feel! Then you will see if it's worth staying in the relationship or not.
3. First of all, you need to leave him. Part of the reason your self esteem is so low is because you are always wondering if he is looking a this girl or that.. right? Second, he did you wrong, you don't deserve to be treated like that! You need to be with a man who tells his woman how beautiful she is everyday (hint hint guys) That is how a real man treats his woman. When you walk don't the street together you need to feel together, like a couple, proud of who you have on your arm, and the relationship you have. I bet you don't feel that way. Because you know that he does not feel that way. Only because he is too worried about "blonde surfer chicks" to be thinking about who he has right beside him.
I know you love him, but maybe you need to separate for awhile, see some other people. Then either he will realize what he had with you is truly what he is proud of or maybe it was not meant to be. but you are not happy and you need to get out and test the waters a bit, make him jealous!
Good Luck.. Confidence is the most beautiful thing on a women, you know you are better then her, and the next girl that comes along. Just make sure that everyone else knows too!..
4. Just Break Up With That Jerk & And Totally Get Revenge On This Gal.....
Or Just Dump The Jerk & Become Freinds With The Surfer Gal......
5. The only thing I see that you could do to spare yourself from the pain is to get out of this relationship.
Yes. it may hurt in the beginning but in time you will heal. That would be a far better option than staying into a relationship that you know is not doing you right.
6. A lot of girls have the same problem
I don’t know way they don’t see the answer when it is so obvious!!
The thing is, guys fantasize about sex and how to get the best of it.
As long as he is looking for it somewhere else, then that means that you are not satisfying him sexually!!
Ask yourself this question: what did he ask sexually since you guys start dating until now and you refused because whatever reason you have (most likely you are not into it or you dont like it)?
The list of things that you will come with are the reasons way he is looking somewhere else
Try this things and I guaranty that you will never loss him again, and even if he have feeling for her he will never go after her sexually.
Start to work out and get fit. (This will rise you sexual drive and that is something you need right here)
Fix your heir, your nails; be beautiful by the way he defined the word beautiful. Go with him to sex store and buy yourself customs and sex cloths that he like, ask him there (do you like to see me wearing this?)
Take a look at your underwear cloths you have and remember that the only person who will see them is your man. So, are they sexy? If not, then get rid of them and buy yourself sexy thongs
Show him you desire to have sex with him and tell him how bad you like whatever he likes sexually. (Does he like anal? Open the subject and tell him that you like it in the ***. Does he like oral? Show him how much bl0wjob satisfies you. Does he like telling you names during sex? Ask him to tell you more.)
There is nothing wrong with being sexy to your man
Other than what I said, be positive and happy when he is around, that will make him feel like he wants to be with you more.
Stop saying that you are taird because it turn him off big time.
Remember, the solution for your problem is not going out for a movie or restaurant or whatever romantic activity you think about to tight your relationship with him. The solution is not romantic, it’s sexual.
Maybe the other girl is more beautiful then you in your point of view. But it’s not the problem at all.
The problem is how much you satisfy him sexually.
Remember that during the process you will give up things that you didn’t before and you will sacrifice things you didn’t before.
You might ask yourself if he worth it.
Don’t think about it this way.
Because all this is to improve yourself and to become more desirable women regardless of who is your man. Even if you have doubts about him remember that it’s about you not him it’s about you.
You might need help to do some of this stuff, don’t be shy. If there is anything you need help with ask the guys right here at yahoo answers.
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