Alright well I just got into a little fight with my sister (she is 22) and I feel awful. What happened was, my buddy and I were talking on the phone and she came in talking like I was a little kid and just the usual saying I need to hang up and . I forced her to leave my room, when I saw her walk past she made more comments. I got in her face and grabbed her arms, then put her in a Choke hold from behind her. At first it was light and she seemed really not serious, by the end she was starting to cry and was really pissed off. My mom got involved and pissed her off even more. I feel really bad about this. I'm never like this to her or anyone, I guess just all her crap built up and let out. Anyone wanna help me feel better? All help is appreciated.
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1. 2 hours ago
Sh!t, ok looks like there is some misunderstanding. I'm her 16 year old brother. Sorry about that...
2. you should have kicked her in the box to finish off the fight
3. ALRIGHT MAN NOT TO BE RUDE OR ANYTHING BUT WHATEVER HAPPENED... IT HAPPENED GIVE HER SOMETIME TO CHILL OUT AND THAN TRY TO TALK TO HER ABOUT IT BUT NO MATTER WHAT KEEP UR COOL. IF SHE GOES OFF LET HER ALL U HAVE TO DO IS KEEP UR COOL IF U GET MAD JUST REMEMBER WHAT HAPPEN LAST TIME U GUYZ GOT INTO IT
4. you should probably make sure your sister feels better first before you can feel better.
5. sounds like you are happily married and shes not?.....i think she is jelous of your marriage...............you need to tell her you love her ..........always have always will but you are married and your hubby comes first ...and that you will always be there for her if needed
6. sisters get into fights its normal, you just let your emotions get the best of you, giver her time to settle down and let her know your truly sorry for hurting her feelings. im sure she will understand when all is said and done =)
7. You need to take responsibility for your actions first of all. Tell her you are really sorry, and you don't know what you were thinking. Owning it, will resolve the tension, and eventually she will forgive you, but give her time.
If you truly feel bad you will do more than this, do something nice for her WITHOUT feeling like she owes you anything because .. this is your SISTER .. a direct blood relative, and no one in the world is more important (to me anyways) than my sister......
You get in my sisters face, and I'll be putting the choke hold on you, my point being, this is the person most likely to love you unconditionally and help you out regardless. I know I have been helped out of some tight spots by my sister, for no other reason than I am her brother.
If you think your anger is an issue, ask for help, your sister would be glad to try and find you some I would bet.
8. don't let it grow more serious. say sorry to her and bring her something she likes. do something funny and laugh together (as if you don't remember what happened before) lol
i do the same thing when i'm in the same situation. it always worked out. so, best of luck for you too.
9. give her time to cool off....then apologize sincerely for what you have done.......it might be her fault for pushing you over the edge...but still she is your sister and she is older than you...she deserves your respect...maybe you can buy her flowers or chocolates to go with your apology...im sure she will appreciate that...you're her brother and she will always love you no matter what...
10. Whatever your sister said...would not justify your actions. Cleaning this up is your job. You just communicated to someone who loves you and that you love that your anger is out of control. People "give us crap" all the time...and you will get more of it in the future...from a spouse, bosses and kids. However, we create our own anger and rage. Other people do not "make us mad." You expected, wanted or believed you deserved something and weren't getting it...so you got mad and violent. This is not a good pattern to develop. You should regret what you've done. Don't go into guilt...that won't serve anything. Clean it up with her...assure her that it won't EVER happen again and that no one should EVER put their hands on her in anger...especially someone who loves her. And tell her thank you for teaching you a valuable lesson! It sounds like there might be more going on with you than just your sister's "crap." Maybe talking to someone would help sort that out. Good luck to both of you...
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