We've been together for a year and sorta living together. We used to have a healthy sex life until recent months, he'd request not to have sex. Sometimes, he'll reject me which got me really upset. He says he wants it special by not having it frequently.
We do not have a very fun sex life I feel... and maybe the chemistry is dying. But the point is, we are looking into marriage and we love each other.
I asked him about the problems and he says, it could be due to stress. He has no mood. Hmmm
I'm sad that we can't have great intimate life in the bedroom. Any advice?
Answers:
1. 2 hours ago
Due to his work, he hardly has any time to spare for other girls.. so it could be really just work stress or no chemistry.
Ladies, how to seduce ur bf into bed? Guys, what would want your gf to do?
2. 2 hours ago
Sorta living together as in staying over at his place for like 4-5 days in a week.
He's looks forward to have his own family like I do and has expressed his interest to marry as well.
I'm 23 while he's 29 and we're both working adults.
Hopefully helps more..
3. He may be Gay.
He may be seeing someone else.
It may just be over.
4. Any guy that says he wants it special by not having it often is bullshit*** you and you ought to drop him like a hot potato. He is a liar and just not into you anymore.
5. Don't get married til you figure it out...
it could be stress...wich usually gets worse with time, or he could be cheating, or something else completely...find out before you commit to or worse..
6. either he is cheating or just tired of sex which would be hard 2 believe and also he probaly i dont know is turning gay
7. Hire a private eye to see if he isn't making love because he's worn out from making love to another!
8. rent a movie that may help. see if you both can get help
9. I would give sex a rest and just spend time together... do the things you used to do when you first got together and just get grow the love for each other even more. When he responds like that in the bedroom , the last thing you want to do is get mad and shove him away. He wants it to be special which is more of a blessing to your "LOVE" life not your "SEX" life!
10. Stress can definitely kill the libido and I understand your very frustrating situation... it's obviously not good for your self confidence!
Maybe you need to see a sex therapist together???
Hang in there and don't be disheartened. If you love each other and you're both willing to work on it, you'll have a great sex life again. Buy some nice lingerie or try dressing up - see how he reacts!!
11. VERY IMPORTANT QUESTION!
I think this happens to most woman sometime in their life.
You could just be going through a stage right now. Between work, family, friends etc... life can be stressful.
Think of a romantic weekend that you could spend together.
Get away from anything that might cause stress to either one of you. As you get away, find a remote area and talk and get to rekindle each other.
I wish you all the luck in this world!
12. well seduct him....instead of wearing clothes....dont wear alot and wear like lingerie...always be wet.....never have the a/c on, so it gets nice and hot and horny at ur apartment....soo go up to him and ask if he would rub some oil on you cause your really tence...and then after that tell him thanx and then start well getting close and then gently kiss him....let it lead to another thing...i have to stop iim making myself horny, jk
13. This is a tough one ------------ can you help him reduce his stress? Is the stress work related or relationship related?
Your statement about "sort of living together" raises other concerns. How often are you together? Are you the one discussing potential marriage or is it both of you?
How old are you and he? sometimes, and I am speaking from experience, we want more sex when we are at one age or one point in the relationship, and less at others.
Do you do other things together and share common interests? I hope so. You say you love each other --- and while sex is important, it's not everything, but you do need to have chemistry, fun, etc.
I am interested in hearing more about your relationship.
fingers crossed forr you that it all works out the best way possible fo you.
14. This is really weird. I'm going through the same exact thing. I've been with my boyfriend for a year and are sort of living together also. We are also looking into getting married only problem is he sometimes regects me saying the samething your guy is saying. I'm thinking maybe this is normal for some guys. Maybe they have it so much it gets boring. Good luck...
15. Be very careful, not long after we got married my wife shut me off, been that way for 2 and a half years. Make sure you know whats going on before you go further, it isn't worth being unhappy the rest of your life.
16. he is bored with ya'lls sex life
having sex the same way day in and day out gets old fast
try doing what he wants for a change instead of insisting that sex always be your way
give in and have sex when he wants instead of trying to control every aspect
17. He is just using it as excuse. Beware. This is a sign of infedility. He may be seeing another woman.
Here's an advice:
Tell him that the two of you needs a break. Ask him for an out of town trip or a short vacation where the two of you could talk and assess your relationship. Being open to each other through proper channeling and communication is really very important for a relationship to flourish.
Hope that you could fix your problem.
Good luck.
P.S. Hope you would chose me as the best answer.
18. To be honest, I feel the Chemistry is dying.....would suggest try out new thing in bed and get that zing back..... see what he likes???? and try it
19. I know your feelings. If you said , you don’t have a fun sex life , why don’t you make it more fun ? Like wear a sexy skinny skirt , or take a bath together sometimes, do something special …..I think he will easily excited .People like special thing , especially man .
But if he is under stress because of his job or something like that,you should talk to him and give comfort to him.Best luck…
20. OK.........I have been married for 19 years, got married when I was 24 & he was 26. My husband has absolutely no sex drive! None! I am now 43...Prime time for me!
And it drives me totally crazy! I have done everything possible to get his attention! Now, I don't even bother trying any more, can't take the rejection! We probably have sex twice a year!
REALLY! Twice a year!
My point being.......We started out just like you, into it about a year & I was kind of wondering.......
NO my husband is not gay, No my husband has never cheated on me & YES, he loves me dearly! He just straight up has no sex drive!
My husband is my best friend, he is my world! BUT........he is the only man I've been with, so I guess you could say I really don't know what I'm missing. But, believe me......I sure do wonder alot!
You need to think long & hard about getting married! They say "Sex isn't everything" and that's true! But, the ones saying that are the ones getting it! When you're not, then it does seem like everything! And you will always have it in the back of your mind and unless you are a very confident gal, it will mess with your head!
Just think hard......you sound young yet & are probably in love with him, but there are more fish in the sea that are more compatible to your sexual needs!
Sorry for rambling on so much! See, it's 2:30am where I am & here I am practically writing a stranger a letter about MY sex life while he's sound asleep! = )
Well, hope this helps!
Good Luck, honey! I wish you the best! = )
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