Me and my fiance want to have a very small wedding ceremony with just our wedding parties and our parents but want everyone to come to the reception to celebrate. Do people do this? Would it be very rude of us to do this even though these are our wishes for OUR special day...??
And if its duable...how do i do the invetations? (I am hand making the invitations with my fiance's mom)
Answers:
1. Yes, but don't call it a wedding, call it a party after the ceremony. A reception is usually for thanking those who witnessed your vows. What you are having is a party to celebrate your wedding.
2. It is your speacial day so u decide, but that would b rude for some people not to b invited to the ceremony. As its a unique day, why dont u invite everyone, im telling you, if u dont, u will regret later on.
3. Do you have the two at separate locations? If so, you could just write on your card that you are inviting them to the wedding reception.
I found this example online:
Jennyb
&
Corpse
Will be joined in marriage
Whenever 2005
At the
Place
City, State
Please join them in celebration
At a cocktail & hors d’oeuvres reception
Hosted by whoever
Date 2005
Time
Place
4. congrats for getting married
yes u can do it and is very practical... other ppl can understand that u want to have the event personal....
if u can do then try to marry at a different place than ur city...
go to your hometown or ancestral place... or village... marry there, and hold the reception in the city where u live...
this way, ppl wont take it as being rude....
5. My fiance and I plan to do just that. We want our wedding to be a very small, personal thing with only our immediate family and friends (moms, dads, sisters, his best friend, my best friend), so 10 people total. I've ran the idea by quite a few people,with mixed but mostly positive opinions of the matter. It's certainly not traditional, but it's do-able and I think a lot of people are understanding of things like that.
As far as the invitations go, we'll be doing two sets. Since the wedding group is so small, we're hand-delivering the wedding invitations and mailing out the others with the same format/language as a regular wedding invitation. ("You are cordially invited to celebrate the union of blah blah blah.")
Ultimately, it is YOUR wedding, so you and your fiance should do what you want for it! If that includes a small wedding and a huge reception, then so be it! :)
(Congratulations, by the way!)
6. Yes! My Mother Mamie, of blessed and beloved memory, was Emily Post, Vanderbilt, and Miss Manners all in one. I did not know this until she explained it to me after I complained about a friend who invited me to the reception, and not the wedding. You can have a reception for a “wedding” after the honeymoon, it is acceptable. You can have a “private” weddings, and an invitation wedding celebration, it is acceptable. As long as you do not demand gifts, and or tell guests how to spend any gift money they wish to spend (like donate to X charity), what my Mother called a “charity ball”, it is acceptable and proper.
7. You can but most people take it as rude. If you are going to pay for them to go to the reception, then why can't they go to the free ceremony? If you don't want them at the ceremony then I wouldn't invite them to the reception. It is rude to many people to invite to one thing but not other.
8. I have only ever seen people invited to the wedding and dance but not the reception. Just make 2 different invites! My cousin did and her wedding was fantastic
9. Ah the endless rude and tacky acts committed using the "its our special day" montra.
Can you do this? Sure. Has it been done? Of course.
Will people find it rude? Probably unless there is a really good reason why they are excluded from the ceremony like it' the church your family's been using for 6 generations but only holds 100 people.
Why? Because the message you are sending to your guests (intentionally or not) is "Hey guys, we don't think you are important or good enough to come to the ceremony but come to our reception and bring us a gift!"
10. I wouldnt recommend what one poster said about writing the wedding info. On the invitation, just write "Please join us in celebration of our marriage on (date) at (reception location) (time)" or something to that effect. No info on the wedding ceremony, or you may have some unexpected guests!
You can even write the hosts name and parents names as you would any other invitation. Youll also need reply cards.
If I was only invited to the reception, I wouldnt say anything but honestly I really look forward to the ceremony and being a part of the bride & grooms day. After all, the ceremony is what its all about!!
11. It is your day and you may do what you wish. The ceremony can be private and you can word the invitations appropriately to indicate reception only. Most people don't make it to the ceremony anyway. Look up info online. There's plenty out there.
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