My wife cheated on me?

1. 30 minutes ago
she addmitted it and yes we have a son he is 4

2. She doesn't love you. Divorce her before you end up getting a disease from her.

3. i would NEVER stay with anyone who cheated on me & was proved to be a liar...but its your life - its up to you!!

4. This is grounds for d-i-v-o-r-c-e!

5. She sounds like a two timer and you know it will never stop till the next time.

6. I guess she doesn't love you... and she's lying about loving you.

7. Lots do.

8. she is a whore ..sorry you need to dump her or she will do it again behind your back.. sorry thats just the way some people are.. its like they have no morels or soul

9. pfft say see ya later. you deserve better than that and im sure you know the answer to your question if you just read what you said. She doesn't deserve to be loved, by the sounds of things she only cares about herself. Find someone that will love you and treat you with the respect that you give them.

10. Wow no remorse, let me guess she was more upset with the violation of her privacy.....Well if there is still communication, that is still cheating...I dont think that they are having chats about the whether...Especially over pics of his penis. Time to think about having the talk on whether there is any hope to work it out, if not get out of there as fast as you can

11. she doesn't love you he is laughing at you bury the body's deep and cover them with lime

12. She doesn't otherwise she woudn't have done it. There is only one circumstance for divorce and that is when one has cimitted adultry. So I would send myself packing and find someone who cares.

13. I think you need to take some time and be away from her for a while, seems like she doesn't realize what she has or how much she has to lose over this... you should think about maybe getting a separation until she is ready to tell you she is sorry and she really loves you like you deserve to be loved...

14. If she shows no remorse, she is not remorseful. So, if I were you, I'd have a trial separation. If she still changes not, divorce.

15. Get rid of the cheating bit#h!! She is still communicating with him, so obviously she expects to see him again. Don't be her fool. If she is not showing remorse, then she is obviously not in love with you. File for divorce and find a nice woman that will love and respect you.

16. she doesn't love you, if she did she would not be lying and cheating on you, don't allow yourself to be misused. The fact that she shows no remorse tells me that you would be better off without her, she will cheat again. Find someone else that will appreciate you.

17. LEAVE HER!!! tell her BYE BUH BYE!!! it will be hard at first but you will find someone who will appreciate and love you! aloha

18. wow that hurts a lot!!!!!!....don't stay up with a woman like that..he doesn't love and respect u for what she did..file a divorce..the video would be a great evidence.... one day or another u will find a woman who won't cheat on u and will love u till death...

19. Firstly, you need to calm down. I think the urge to strangle her and break the guy's dong is building up within you whenever you think about it right? Now you have to answer yourself truthfully: Can you forgive her for what she has done? Don't just forgive her for the sake of being together and don't be together for the sake of old times... I'm not saying you should not forgive, but if you are ok, then put it behind you. if you can't forgive her, then the two of you should go seperate ways or hate will result. Or not try to forgive as much as you can... But you will never know what will happen. if you can really put it behind you and move on, then YOU ARE DA MAN!

20. your wife has cheated on you and has lied to you...who knows what else she has been lying about? personally im not for divorce...but some situations do call for one...losing trust which is a basis for any relationship is a hard thing...most of the time, you just cant put back things the way they were...and her having no remorse at all makes it worse...it is up to you if you want to stick with her or file for divorce...but i think this is one situation that calls for divorce...i dont think you would just be able to forgive and forget what she did...you just might end up fighting all the time...i just hope you don't have kids...in the end, they are the ones who suffer the most...

21. i would kick her out if i were you!!! she obviously doesnt care that much if she was willing to hurt you like that. if she loved you, she should have stopped after you busted her with that message in her phone but obviously you didnt mean that much to her. she isnt worth it. leave her..... dont bother with her at all!!!!!

22. If she is lying to you and has cheated on you, she is going to do it again. How can you trust her? Get out now.

23. you probably still love her huh? it's so hard on you, but the best thing is to leave for a while. hang out with friends and just keep it off your mind. if she really loves you she'll be begging you on her hands and knees for you to get back with her, no one knows what they have until theyre gone. its gonna hurt at first but youll learn to shrug it off if you don't see her anymore...

24. First of all, it took a lot for you to write this out and i bet it was hard typing out all this for everyone. Your one step ahead of many others in similar posisions. Secondly, your not at fault, dont let her convince you otherwise. Thirdly, your not going to find a magic answer that you never thought of before. Its just not going to happen. All we can do is tell you to do what you know you have to do. None of us can judge what your decision should be, because you know the answer best being that your in the posision with all the knoledge of the situation. Tell her your concern for her lack of remorse. Tell her something has to be done. Something does have to be done, she should not be able to get away with something like that wihtout conciquence. In addition, dont do anything you know you will regret int he future. Do what ever you can to get her to understand how serious the situation is. This is the next step you want to get to. If you cant get there... well i hope everything works out for you. I cant even imagine being in you shoes and not be going crazy. Your doing good. Hang in there.

25. What do you think all of this means? It means she has no respect for you and she is not in love with you. Your marriage is over and *she will* cheat again when the opportunity presents itself. The question is, how much self-respect do you have? If you have any at all, you will leave this marriage and take what little pride you have left with you - you've already debased yourself enough putting up with these lies and foolishness. Accept reality, move on and create a new life.

26. Definitely a moral issue. If it is something you can forgive and are willing to work through together, I say give it a shot! I could never forgive or forget. Disease is right! Being drunk is no excuse. So every time she drinks, she make bad choices? Not only that, you two are married to each other. Are you that far out of her thoughts that she can't remember her place? You have many options (counseling, divorce, whatever!), but I am a believer of taking responsibilies of your actions and paying the consequences. She now carries the label of cheating spouse! Not only will you know, but eventually others will know and maybe make propositions to her that she might be willing to take. Besides going back in time, what do you want? Take a step back. What would you tell your friend or a stranger to do in your situation? Talk with her calmly. Be sure to ask her what or why she feels she did this to destroy the trust in your lives. She will play a song and dance and say she is not getting attention and cry. Again, stay calm. Any threats you make will be used against you later!

27. You need serious help and it's not going to come from Yahoo answers! Go see a therapist about it or you pastor!

28. I don't want to hurt your feelings but if your wife truly loved you she would be sorry for cheating on you and she would want things to work out for you both. But you say she doesn't even show remorse at all. That's sad. She has broken the marriage vows not you. and she has broken your trust. If you loose trust in a mariage the marriage won't last. She has also endangered your health by having sex with another man. And therefore she doesn't care about you. Tell her how you feel and that you know she doesn't care about you. And please go to the doctor and have yourself checked. There are so many STD'S. And you need to take care of your health. I had a boyfriend a few years ago and I found out he had been with at least 2 women when he was with me. It broke my heart. so believe me when I tell you she doesn't love you. And after I found out about my boyfriend I made an appointment to see my doctor and told him about my situation. He said that I did the right thing. And not to endanger my health over anyone. Remember you are important. Don't go by how your wife treats you. You will find a woman who makes you feel special. There are a lot of good women still out there who would love to meet a great guy like yourself. So, don't loose heart! Give yourself time to heal before you jump back into the dating pool. So many people get married too quickly on the rebound. So give yourself time. Get with friends and family who will support you. And if your comunity has a divorce and separation group join it. Some churches have these groups. and you can be with people who are going through the same thing and can help you. God bless. I wish you well.

29. I don't think any one can tell you if your wife loves you or not. There is a difference between loving and valuing. We can love our car, but heck! if a newer, better one comes out...we'll trade. What is evident is that she doesn't value the marriage or your trust. We nurture and protect what we value. People who believe cybersex is harmless are in a massive case of denial. Infidelity isn't just about physical sex. We engage in the act of infidelity anytime we participate in any activity we know would cause harm to our relationship and we wouldn't openly do with our partner present. Marriages can heal from affairs...and affairs are indicators that something has broken down. The divorce lawyers will have their appointment books ready any time. Prior to committing to a divorce, you might seek the guidance of a marriage counselor. You might still get the divorce, but counseling can help set aside the toxic emotions that often make attorney's rich and create hostile divorces that affect children and future relationships. Her infidelity is definitely hurtful to the trust you had in her...but it has nothing to do with you. Its always a bad solution to any problem.

30. I agree with "monkey.." on this one.

31. Divorce her. She obviously doesn't love you. She shouldn't be having cyber sex or having a guy send her naked pictures. And now that you know she has had sex with him, you should be packing right now.