So, Your going out with this guy and your friends start not liking you anymore. But are they really your friends ir they stop liking you because of the boyfriend that you have? No They are not! Would you break up with your boyfriend to get your friends (and i use that term losely) back. Or do you think that is shallow? 10 points for the best answer.
Answers:
1. i would talk to the friends and ask them whats up then decide from there
2. well ur friends are just jealous that
u have a boyfriend...NO i would break
up with him..if i were u..put ur friends on
the spot and tell them..if they had a bf they
would spend time with him to...being with ur
friends is always a chance having a boyfriend
isnt so go for wat u want not for wat they want..tell
them if they had a bf they would spend time with both
3. u have to know y they all of a sudden don't like u first.
4. I agree. Your friends might not like him because they think he abuses you and they've told you either directly or indirectly and you didn't even consider their concerns. The abuser is the last to feel it or see it in most cases. He could be controlling or physically abusive and you could have been taught to accept it. You need to ask your friends why they are acting this way. If it's something meaningless about him then stick with him if thats the way you want it.
5. There are two trains of thought here. Either your friends are jealous, which is possible. Or, you are spending so much time with your boyfriend you are ignoring your friends, probably more likely. And I say that not to knock you down a notch, but simply it happens quite often and it is very hard for someone to notice that within themselves. I know I had issues with it.
Talk to your friends and ask them what is going on. Maybe they see something about your boyfriend you do not. If you thought of them as friends before, value what they say now. If it turns out to be simply jealousy, then enjoy your new boyfriend.
6. You need to ask why your friends (not just one) have started to not liking you anymore. Has your own attitude changed since going out with him? Is he changing your own perspective of your friendships? Have you ascertained whether it is you they have stopped liking, or rather him - and they don't want anything to do with him?
It is reasonable to expect that one of your friends, particularly if they are close to you and you have spent a lot of time with them, is jealous that you now spend your time with him. This does not explain why you say it is your friends (plural), as it is difficult to accept that they would all feel jealous.
Obviously either you have changed, or your perception of your friends is being undermined. You need to talk to your friends to discover what is occurring here, as it is unusual for a number of friends to stop liking you, as opposed to a jealous friend, and it is important that you find out their reasons.
It sounds like they either do not like him or his influence over you, or alternatively the way you have started to act since dating him.
Best of luck!
7. This is going to be hard for you to accept, but your friends are probably seeing something in this boy that you don't. You see him through "rose colored glasses". They see him for who is he. If they were your friends before you started dating this boy, then you should listen to their opinions. They obviously only have YOUR best interest at heart. Maybe you should look at your boyfriend from their point of view. Write out a list.... Pros and Cons.... What you like about him or the great things about him under pros and the things that piss you off about him under cons. Which side of the list is longer???
In the end you have to follow your heart.....
You want my advice???? Their will be alot more boyfriends in your life, but your friends (the true ones) last a lifetime!!!
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