I was with a guy for a year & five months.
Alot of drama happened, lots of tears, & heart ache that still lingers on till this day.
It's been about 2 months since we broke up.
With in the first month he already found a girl.
I found a guy before he did, & I honestly believe he's with her to get over me. Not to sound conceided but...
Ok he sent me a message saying he doesn't want to talk anymore because he hears alot of things about me & my current boyfriend & it kills him to hear & so he wanted to stop talking to me period...then the next day he finds that other girl. I was happy for him of course. Anyways, it's been 2 months since we've talked. I attempted to send him a message saying hey how you doing? but he never replied back...but I'm thinking if I should send him a friend request for myspace...I just want to be friends you know? but I don't want him to think I want to get back with him or anything? but I do want to be friends with him...So I dunno. Should I send a request?
Answers:
1. 9 hours ago
Or should I just not talk to him???
Also guys what would you think if your ex sent you a friend request & you had a girl???
Again, I just want to be friends with him you know?
2. 9 hours ago
Or should I just send him a message on yahoo messanger?
If yes, then word for word what should I say???
3. 9 hours ago
I was the first to tell him " I don't think we should talk anymore"
SO, I am the one to blame for ever putting it in his head...
HE does talk to another one of he's ex's...
She sends him comments she talks to him online...Why should I be any different?
We've both moved on exactly!
SO why can't we be friends?
Oh and when I sent him that message, he may not have gotten it because I bet he made a new account...
It just doesn't feel right not talking to him...
Or maybe it's just because I miss him...AS A FRIEND....
nothing more.
I know him & I will never be again...
but...I guess you all are right.
It's for the best.
If he wants to be friends in the future then ok...till then...I should just leave it as it is....
4. No, because pretty much anything you do is going to make it look like you either want to be involved again or your a little overinterested in his life. Please understand that some of these things are black and white. It's very hard to be "just friends" with someone you've been seriously involved with. Be honest with yourself about your own intentions, and try to remember why you didn't work out in the first place. It's easy to put guys on a pedestal after you've been away from each other.
I hope this helps & good luck!
5. It wouldn't hurt to try.
6. He said that he doesn't want to talk to you and if he did add you on myspace it could end up just adding more drama to your relationship with your man. Your man might feel put out that you are friends with your ex, and you won't be able to resist checking his status 24/7 online. Just let him go like he has let you go.
7. You said there was "A lot of drama...lots of tears and heartache that still lingers to this day."
So, why do you want to be "just friends"?
Leave him alone. He has a girlfriend, you have a guy- you've both moved on. If he didn't reply back to you, take it as a sign that he's done. Regardless of the reasons he gave, he's already told you he doesn't want to talk anymore. The only reason you would go through this extra effort of sending him a friend request is that you can't let go. If you were his girlfriend, would you be cool with him staying in contact with his ex? It's just a recipe for all the drama you left behind.
Not to sound insensitive, but he's already made it clear how he feels. You should stop before he says something really hurtful because you couldn't take "No" for an answer.
8. savanna, i think your still in love with him...c'mon cut that crap that all your intention is be friend swith him when you are this paranoid, so to say... be honest with yourself...you still miss him, right? and you still hope that its the two of you, not you and other guy or him with another girl...
but to give benifit of the doubt that you really wanna just remain friends with him, i have nothing but praises...people should practice being friends with their exes, after all you've through a whole lot of stuff and its just non sense to forget it all! you could forget the hurt and pains but why would you forget the good memories you've done, right?! i don't find it wrong whatsoever to stay in close touch with my exes as long as there are no extra agenda...for old times sake remain friends with your ex!
good luck girl! hope you could make up your mind...and be honest with yourself!
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