I have married for 4 years but my wife has hated to have any sex.?

1. Maybe you're doing it wrong?

2. get her drunk and sex or just force it

3. Oh, I'm sorry... I cannot imagine not wanting sex...

4. Most of the time when women are avoiding sex, its for psychological reasons. Most men would have cheated by now (I hope thats not the case here), but I would suggest seeking a sex therapist. They can root out the problems and offer some tips.

5. It could be that she, like many people, just don't have a desire for sex. I would sit down with her and have a respectful heart to heart and see where her head is at. And let her be honest without your getting angry at her. It may not be a case of her not finding you attractive but something else. Once you talk it out, maybe a counselor can help you. Was she ever badly hurt in another relationship? Sometimes if people are, they are afraid to open up again on that level to someone else. It could be many reasons.

6. 1. Make sure it isn't something physical (pain, depression, chemical imbalance, etc.) 2. Make sure it isn't something emotional (she gained weight and doesn't feel sexy; she thinks of herself as a mom and not a woman anymore, etc.) 3. If none of the above are applicable, sit down with her and tell her how beautiful and desirable she is to you and how much it hurts you that you don't have a healthy sexlife anymore. If she won't respond to anything, you need a counselor. Women, remember....your man WANTS AND NEEDS a healthy sexual relationship if you want him to be satisfied, happy and HOME, doting on you instead of chasing skirts on the job or at bars. As his woman, your PRIVILEGE is to keep him smiling....and that attention will come back to you tenfold.

7. maybe she's burned out with the baby responsibilities? sit down with her and talk to her about how you feel. plan a weekend getaway with a good babysitter she trusts so she wont worry about your child (hopefully). then, just love on her while away, like old times. hopefully you both will come back refreshed and renewed.

8. It could be over! It's grounds for divorce. Remember at the alter " will you love and cherish him through sickness and in health ". Deprivation is in the realm of adultery, the agreement is broken.

9. And you haven't had sex with her for 4 years? It's time that you do something. This is a serious issue. Do you know the reason? She doesn't want to have sex? or sex with you? Have you tried? Does she feel pain or discomfort? Does she wants a baby or is she is scared to get pregnant? Is it her upbringing, is she very religious? If you don't know the reason I think you need to have a serious talk with her and maybe see a sex therapist. Is the rest of the marriage OK? Do you love each other? This is devastating for a marriage. THis is ground for a divorce. I hope you can fix this problem asap.