This past weekend, after a few drinks, I was loosened up enough to talk to a girl and strike a connection, and became close for the night. But now, when I see her (we live in the same dorm, not the same floor though), all I can seem to muster up is a "hey." She seems like a really nice girl, but I feel like I'm blowing it by my lack of conversing abilities while sober. Any suggestions/advice on how to be more comfortable in these situations? Thanks!!
Answers:
1. Next time you see her, instead of just saying "hey", say "hey, I'm on my way to grab some [lunch, coffee, dessert, whatever]. Wanna come with?" Ask her about how her classes are going, if she has exams coming up, what she did over the weekend, what she's doing that evening, etc. Just pick a few questions and get her talking. You might be surprised how easily it will go once you get started.
2. Just remember she's just a girl and reminds yourself that conversating is the thing thats going to get any kind of relationship going. Just take a deep breath and say somehing witty or just ask her about her day.
3. ugh i hate it when i hit it off with a guy and next time i see him he gets akward. Talk to her about ANYTHING like at all, im sure shell just be glad your talking again, itll grow from there...trust me idk how good rehersing your conversation will help b/c it never seems to play out the way you expected, so have no expectations and just go with the flow, w/e your comfortable with she'll be comfortable with too...good luck!
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