so saturday someone a once knew very well died in a car accident...and i havent cried....
Me and here used to hang out a lot in the summer of 7th or 8th grade...and i am now in 10th grade and we havent spoken for a long long time...
we weresuch good friends...and I keep thinking ..." why havent i cried yet"..i just odnt understand why....why cant i cry for someone who died such a sad death? why wont i cry?
how she died--
She got a ride home from a guy who had been drinking...he got break checked...and swerved...and the ran into a joshua tree...and it went threw the windsheild and went through her...
help me...
Answers:
1. It either hasn't hit you yet or you've got other ways of dealing with things. I wouldn't complain about not being a trainwreck...
2. because your brain still thinks that person is still alive
3. your probably still in shock. it will probably hit you at the funeral...thats waht happened to me at least
4. Sometimes, it doesnt hit people for a long time, then they just break down crying.
Im sorry:[
5. Dont feel bad, some people just deal with death in other ways!! Sorry for your loss!!
6. Its probably so trajic that you are now emotionally paralyzed. Dont mourn her death,move on and hopefully youll find yourself happier
Dont Stress
7. Im SORRY. You will deal with your loss in your own way I think. There's nothing wrong if you dont cry, it doesnt mean you dont CARE. Have you thought of talking to a good friend of yours about this, a parent, counselor?
8. YOUR IN SHOCK!!!
9. hey it's completely normal if you haven't cried. You just need time people deal with grief in their own way. and in away you are expressing your grief through this question. Don't be upset over the fact that you haven't cried and i am so sorry for you loss Good luck
10. Just let it all out,. Don't hold your feeling inside ...You will feel better... ...Every one grieves in their own way and in there own time....
11. yo i got this same problem i see so much death now i dont cry for ne body and i fuckin HATE it i try to make myself cry but i just cant
12. Well you just need time it probably hasn't sunk in all the way. Just don't freak out that you havn't cried you'll deal with it on your own time and you'll know when.
13. because she wouldent want you to be crying she really woulden't you were her bestie and you know it hurts bad down inside but even you know she wouldent want you crying over her
and im very sorry :(
14. Hi Lora,
Please remember that crying is not something you forced upon yourself. Unless you're in showbiz where the role requires you to cry. Now, let me ask you you. What is it you feel? Do you feel remorse? Whatever it is, "not crying" is something you should be worrying right now. Some people cry easily & naturally. Drama shows, movies, documentaries make them cry. Some don't. But not crying doesn't mean you have a hardened heart. I've met the nicest person who doesn't cry, just like I've met those emotional crying jag who are really "black in heart". If the tears come, then just let it flow. If it doesn't, then simply go on with your life.
15. one time one of my teachers said that you cry later. When the time is right i remeber once my friend was close to dieing and i didn't cry. And i saw everyone crying (b/c everyone was scared she was going to die) And then i started crying one time out of nowhere like crazy and then i realized i was crying b/c of that. It will probably come soon.
16. I'm SOOOOO SORRY!! that is soo sad!! you are probably still in shock! you don't realize she died or you are either telling yourself that she is still alive! one day it will hit you and you will start to cry! it just make take a few days even weeks or maybe months! just depends on the person!
17. I'm sorry. When i found out my grandpa died i didn't cry. then at the funeral I bawled my eyes out. I think it didn't really set in until the funeral.
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