My bridesmaids are all flying in from far away to be at the wedding. DF and I decided to pay for the dresses- Im going to buy them and ship them to the women (theyre all in other countries and dont have the store near them where I am buying the dresses from).
If Im buying the dresses, is it ok to let the bridesmaids pay to have their dressed altered? I know usually bridesmaids buy their own dresses, but these ladies are paying a lot to come to our wedding spo we thought we should pay for them.
Should I send them money with the dresses to have them altered, or let them pay for it?
No rude answers please.
Answers:
1. Yes, it's perfectly OK to tell them that you'll pay for the dresses, but they are responsible for the alterations.
Buying their dresses is above and beyond what you're required to do for them. It's quite generous.
2. I think its fine to let them pay for their own alterations. You are being very helpful to their finances by paying for the dresses. Besides, every place charges different prices for alterations, so you'd have no clue how much to spend. Just try to get close to their size and you've done more then enough. Use that extra money on your honeymoon! : )
3. You are already being WAY generous by paying for the dresses. They can pay for some measly alterations.
Sorry, that is just my opinion as a fellow bride-to-be (next June!) Those dresses are not cheap, and you are being super sweet by buying them.
4. Let them pay for it. I highly doubt any of them would be bothered by it, considering you bought the dress for them! Also, some dresses may need more altercations than others, so it would be impossible to guess how much money to send to them. I think it's so sweet you bought them in the first place!
5. Definitely let them pay for their own alterations... you already have way more than enough to do setting things up for your wedding to worry about keeping track of who got alterations done etc, and you already paid for their dresses.
6. I think it's fine to allow the bridesmaids to pay for their own alterations. Especially since you saved them a lot of money buying the dresses, that was very generous of you.
Good luck!
7. Buying the dresses is way beyond what a "normal" wedding is considered. They would need to be resonsible for all alterations.
8. You are so sweet to pay for the dresses. As a mother of two up coming weddings this year...it is perfectly acceptable for your bridesmaids to pay for thier own alterations.
9. Let them pay- I am sure they are expecting to pay for something, if not everything. You're being generous already- don't worry about offending them, you won't.
10. Bridesmaids are typically responsible for not only their dresses and accessories but any travel expenses as well. Paying for their dresses is generous enough. It's fine to let them know they'll have to pay for the alterations.
11. Since you are paying, it would be all right to have them pay for any alterations.
12. I purchased my bridesmaids dresses as well for the same reasons. But if they needed alterations I would let them pay for it. When people agree to stand up they should understand what they are getting into, and if they can not handle the financial commitment they should talk to you about it.
13. wow, i wish i could have gotten my dress and shoes paid for last year.lol no you are not asking for too much
14. I wouldn't send money with them. Alterations vary so much in cost and they may even end up either not needing them or having a family friend do them. It's too hard to guess on that kind of thing. If you did decide to pay, I would have them send you a copy of the bill.
P.S. Since you are being so generous with the dresses, don't feel you have to give expensive jewelry or anything like that as a bridesmaid gift.
15. I have the exactly same situation. I am buying the dress for the brides maids because they are in living in other countries. I think it's okay to let them pay for the alteration. That's what I'm going to do~
16. Most people that are in the wedding party plan on buying their dresses, these women (especially if they are flying form other countries) will be more than greatful for the gift of the dress. They will likely not complain about having to alther them. Just make sure you get all their measurements, its very important you get something close in size so that there is little altering to do and so that they can alter the dress without changing something important in it.
Liek I said they will be baffled that you bought them the dress and that wil be enough, maybe include a note of thanks for their genorosity of traveling and spending all the money to begin with. They wont mind doing the altering.
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