I borrowed $1500 from a man for a house payment. He cared a lot about me. I didn't pay him back for 6 months before he decided to just make it a gift. I didn't really accept the gift, I said i'd pay him but I have not paid him. Times are/were tough. He kept saying take your time.
Anyways three months before he let me borrow $1500, I let someone have $400 for a trip from FL to NYC. I also let this someone have $50 for a video game AFTER I borrowed the $1500. Well.... I felt bad for him. He has had a drug problem in the past.
The man that borrowed $1500 found out about this and got very upset and called me a user and said I took advantage of him. It all started when I said I wanted to buy a WII in front of him. I wasn't going to buy it, I just wanted to jeeze!
Now he thinks I am a user and I don't take insults well so it spiraled out of control. Hes judging me and using his own fears against me. I hate him now and resent him.
Answers:
1. 10 hours ago
I just don't understand... he shouldn't be so mad if hes a real friend. He is like one of those people who expect things back.
2. Heck ya he has every right to be that upset, you did use him. He expected you needed the money for bills, but you obviously didn't, you just wanted to hook up your friends.
You need to pay him back if you want to save this supposed friendship
3. If you truly consider him a friend, you would have paid him back. You had to borrow money for a house payment, yet you had the money to give to others. That money you loaned could have paid your mortgage. He was upset because you were irresponsible with your money. Look at the whole situation before you get all upset since you can't take insults well. It's time for you to grow up and pay those back as soon as possible so they don't lose their respect in you.
4. My advice is to pay him back the full 1500$ as soon as you can. That way you won't owe him a thing and he will have nothing to stand on if he says anything negative about you later. I was in his shoes. I used to loan money out to my co-workers (who were alos friends) but for all the loans (most came to me with sob stories about needing 500 for a car payment or their electric was about to be shut off etc) I made which was about 6000$ in the space of 3 months, I only got repaid by one person (who borrowed 2000$ of that). All the rest just blew me off when I asked for them to repay me and I indeed like this person got quite upset. It has since stopped me from loaning even a quarter to most anyone now. When you get taken advantage of it's not fun. So pay him back (I'm not saying you took advantage of him but if you weren't comfortable with him letting you keep it as a gift as you said then you should have been paying him back already little by little). One of those people who borrowed from me got me to cosign for a car and then screwed me by letting the car get repossessed.
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