back like three years ago me and my kids father had a rocky relationship now we are older more mature and i want to be with him we both did thing wrong but he says he scare he want to but he hurt from what i did i forgave him but he still holding it i prove to him every day i love him and dont want no one else we not together yet but he's my only sex partner every time her call im ready to talk and on weekend he stays at my house he calls me from work tells me he loves me do you think i should give up or should i keep showing him until he trust me. and for the record i did cheat on him or he on me but we did hurt each other bad.
Answers:
1. nothing is understood from your story. what you are trying to tell me?
2. reword that plz !
3. I think if you really genuinely love him then go for it.
Don't rush in at first, just take things smooth for the first few months.
And please don't hurt each other lol.
Maybe go for some counselling if needed :)
Good luck!
4. just cje kout if the relation is mending u sure meet him and talk it out no need to worry dear
5. An ex is an ex for a reason...just remember that. Furthermore, you have unconditional love for your children..not for your only sex partner. You may have history and you may care for him deeply but the fact that you guys both hurt each other should say something. Dont be with someone because of obligation. Love and mutual respect and trust MUST be there otherwise you cant be together...regardless of the children you have together. Its not fair to you or your children. If you guys really and truly love eachother and respect eachother and want to be together you shoudlnt even be second guessing yourself but the fact that you are questioning it probably means dont go back to him.
6. Let me tell you something he knows you love him don't be his fool, this story is the story of my life, and I have and is still doing the same things as yourself except he married her, if you have forgiven him and he still don't want to forgive you its because he wants his cake and eat it to he knows your not going anywhere you both have a child together (same as me) and you save yourself for him but who do he save his self for, cause he does you , and if you don't make a move you will find that it hurts more now than it did then believe me I know.
P.S love does mean letting go (smile) and now.
7. I have tried to understand your situation. I will advise you to be away from him…. talks, phone calls or meetings etc., only for few days and observe him and study his emotions towards you. This will certainly give you the right clue to take the decision further. If he is too sensitive, this might not work.
8. Does it mean all was PAST! Why now that you're starting all over again guys always feel its great cheat if the woman did it before? I assumed the two of you cheat each other before? Why always bring the issue back especially on you? Why not start all over again forgetting the past and move on with the kids?
If you are willing to start a new life with your family again......Does it mean also youre now straight forward & no more monkey business? Is he also doing straight with you?
Better you talk again no holds barred......Open everthing and make a deal that because you as couple want to build new and better family.........No more talks of the past.....Consider it as if it was a nightmare before.....Pray now and start a new life & no more doubts.
Tell your husband youre not talkin on him about his past so he should to you also. You should start on the same ground since in the eyes of God all makes mistakes and all is forgiven. Dont doubt on yourself so that your husband also will never doubt your new you....
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