we have dated for 20 months and i really love him, but idk if the time is riight i reallly want to but then again i dont know how to ask him. i know he feels the same way but idk if we should or wait
Answers:
1. you'll know when the time is right, and if you have to ask then your not ready,.....and please just be safe and use condoms
2. If your not sure you want to then don't, but the circumstances seem good enough.
3. It is better if you WAIT as having a physical relationship just complicates things! If you are in high school then forget about it! Stay safe and have fun! Enjoy your young years without the complications of adult life! Dance, Sing, Play Games, Go To Concerts, Attend Sports Events, Ride Horses, Play Golf, Have A Picnic, Swim, Skate,
Paint and Have Fun but please WAIT on the physical thing!
4. It's a huge step. And it's one that you should most assuradly think about.
However, the best first step is communication. Tell him how you feel. Tell him your desires, and tell him your worries. He should know both. And chances are, he is feeling both too.
Once you discuss it together, you will probably come to some kind of conclusion. Or maybe not. It may be an ongoing communcation about it.
But most of all, trust your instincts. It seems like you've been together a good while. So if you feel ready, you are. If you don't feel ready at any time (even as it's going on) then stop. Stop him. And don't do it. Because the last thing you want to do is regret this.
Hope that helps!
5. NO!! Wait.
1. You will be certain not to get STDs
2. What happens when/If you break up in the future, having gone all the way makes it hurt so much more.
3. You would be giving away a special piece of yourself.
4. Wait until there is a binding commitment, aka Marriage.
5. You won't be sorry for waiting- if he breaks up with you because you won't do it with him then- good, you want someone who loves and respects you not someone who is selfish and just wants all he can get.
6. If you wait- there is no chance you will have children until you are both ready to raise and support children. Even birth control is not 100% gaurenteed, I know many women who still got pregnant while taking/doing birth control.
7. Why not wait- what do you have to lose. Don't put physical pressure on your relationship (believe me it is pressure) just enjoy each other as you are now. When you get married there will be plenty of opportunities to do whatever you want to do without the worry of STDs, breaking up, children you weren't ready to parent.
8. Respect
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