What in God's green earth does taking a relationship slow mean? How do you take things slow without making someone feel like you don't like them? How does a guy keep a girl interested and yet not feel like he's pushing things? I've NEVER understood it and it's time I learned. Comments and advice will be greatly appreciated
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1. 10 hours ago
Ok, are we done with the crappy and obvious answers?? Let's get more specific
2. girls that take it slow are a waste of time...they deserve to be ALONE
3. It is a nice way for one person to say to another that they really don't like you that much but have not found someone better YET.
4. Easy don't cop a feel or try anything until she is ready.
Treat her with respect.
5. Easy.....Don't have sex right away.....
6. That's easy. Spend as much time as possible with her, but don't do anything new during these times until she makes some moves.
7. SLOW means special kisses not tons little to no making out for months she wants to make the move not you so she says she wants to take it slow. She's a control freak sounds to me
8. you know i've never really thought about that phrase, but yeah that's a good question, i'd like to know too!!
9. it just means that u don't rush into the relationship.
10. Taking things slow usually refers to not having sex. Theres a lot of things a guy can do to make it seem like he's interested without hoovering over his girlfriend 24/7. Just don't have yourself so available, take time for yourself.. Don't push things, let everything fall into place like its supposed to. :D
11. The girl probably doesnt like you like that yet. she doesnt want to have sex yet.
12. It means like for example, not kissing on the first date unless the chick gives you a sign that she wants you to. Basically, it just means controlling yourself until you're both ready to do anything physical.
13. It means to keep the snake in the cage.
14. Basically taking it slow means "don't jump in the sack on the first, second or third date". It also means don't say things you feel out of infatuation because in 24 hours it might not be true. It's gaining a real perspective on WHY you feel the you do about the person you're with.
There are a million ways to tell someone you like them without seeming pushy and overbearing and also without seeming aloof and distant.
Little emails to say hi, I miss you, or how was your day. A quick five minute phone call while you're waiting in line somewhere. Stuff life that.
15. eh, i think "take things slow" is just a nice way of saying im not putting out so dont even try it buddy, plus, there may be other options on the table and the person doesnt want to totally commit to one of those options at this point in time
also, from a female point of view..girls want what they cant have so perhaps if you make yourself less avaiable and appear less interested it will make her crazy and she will want you more..the whole reverse psychology thing
16. it just means there not going to put out on the first couple of dates :P
Normally just means they don't want to feel like their married after a couple of weeks. Don't rush any physical activity, give her plenty of space and alone time, still do things with your friends and don't hang out with hers. Might be better to ask the person that said it or one of your friends thats a girl instead of us good people on yahoo answers, cause they know you a bit better then we do.
17. Flirting is always good, but don't jump her bones quite yet. Some girls may be nervous about making a relationship physical after being friends for a while. Some people don't want to jump into a fast paced "thing" if they just got out of a hard break-up.
Maybe she is trying to let you gain her trust, but for whatever the reasons don't pressure her because that will only delay the process. Any girl would love to have a guy that can take it slow, one day it will pay off!
Hope this helps!
18. Alright man, Taking things slow can sometimes mean good because some of the time a person is taking it slow because they may like some one so much they dont want to mess it up in anyway.
19. Simply put, take time (however long it takes) to know the good, the bad, and the ugly in someone...as we all have these sides.
People sometimes put their best foot forward, first.
It may take a little longer to get to know this side, in that case.
20. Taking it slow means you jus flirt alot for a while i mean.....me and my bf didnt lyk kiss till we were going out for about a month to me somehow is taking it slow and just every once in a while say i love you that helps too cause then just maybe if you are the one that want s to go fast they will be willing to also go fast....
21. just be a good friend to her and think of her as a regular friend and dont do anything stupid . then eventually shel develop a divine trust in you and thats when the hardcore fun kicks in.
22. It means that you learn who the person is, and learn to recognize signals. Body language is very informative. If the other person walks very close to you...try holding their hand. You can't expect to have a date, go to dinner...discuss politics and the weather, and then suck face all night. All you'll know about that person is their views on politics, and whether or not you should have a jacket.
If you spend some quality time getting to know that person and you're both relaxed enough...if you FEEL like you've 'clicked'...you may get a really great good night kiss. The more you get to know that person...and let them know you...the more open you'll both be to taking the next step. I don't mean just physically...but the next step in creating a real relationship.
Don't make dating all about physical intimacy. That makes the girl feel like that's all you care about.
The point is...don't expect intimacy if you don't know the person at least somewhat intimately...AS a person.
This is also important: Going out on one or two dates with a girl, does not mean you are in a 'relationship'. Many guys (and I'm sure, girls) seem to think that a couple of dates means that suddenly, you're an exclusive couple/boyfriend and girlfriend. When that happens, things tend to be put on a schedule.
'Today we are a couple. Tomorrow I tell her I don't like her friends. The next day I want to go out with mine, and she won't let me.'
It's hard to maintain a romantic relationship when you don't take the time to foster one. For a relationship to work, you must be friends first. Otherwise...and trust me on this...you will be 'together' and not even know each other.
23. its stupid dont do it
24. Taking it slow means let things happen naturally, dont push a person into a date or not taking no for an answer, let whoever you want decide what he/she wants and if its not moving quick enough for you or they are just giving you the run around, forget about them and move on, if they really want you they will come back on your terms!
25. There isn't one woman on the face of the earth that isn't crazy as hell !!!! Except for your mother !!!! And if you ask your father, he will tell you that she crazy too !!!!
Chics are filled with all kinds of bullsh*t... Tell her that your not interested in her childish sh*t.... and walk away.....
You will thank me some day!
26. First of all your a guy so we forgive you for not knowing. Second, its kind f hard to understand so bear with me. Taking it slow basically that your not making it entierly public but rather that you go on dates and ge to know each other. Mabey do some godnight kisses but othing to hot and heavy. If yu BOTH decide your ready for something more serious then you can make it public and offiially say your not single.
27. Just take things as they come. Don't be in a big rush to be the "perfect" couple. Things just tend to come as they should if your not pushing for more. There are little things you can do to tell her your thinking about her without being overselous. The little stuff makes us feel good. Sometimes thinking big can make a girl unsure. Your gestures say a lot. A kiss on the forehead, a wink, your arm around her in public (not groping) for a short while. Just the little things keep her interested. If things are supposed to work out it wil. Good Luck!! :)
28. Depends on the situation I guess. If your older it may mean one wants to move in together and the other doesn't. It may mean they aren't ready for a sexual relationship. Or it may mean they aren't ready for a committed relation e.g. considered to be boyfriend/girlfriend. Finally it could mean they want nothing to do with you but don't have the balls to break the relationship off.
29. Keeping things slow can mean a variety of things. But a good thing to keep in mind is...
Well, let me put an analogy down here. A relationship is a lot like a house. If you put up the walls and roof and you don't lay a strong foundation, your house will crumble and fall. However, if you spend a lot of time and pay careful attention to the building of the foundation, the house will be far more durable and able to withstand anything.
So if someone tells you to take it slow, it's not a bad thing. In fact, consider it a good thing. Consider it an opportunity to really really get to know this person. Because if you move too fast, things may just crumble.
Hope that helps!
30. Some People, in this case this girl, it means that she is not totally in to you, and she does not want anything serious with you, because a better ride may come along and she does not want to feel like crap when kicks you to the curb.
31. I know this may sound off but be friends first... with the attraction aspect of it. get to know each other very well before coming serious and even physical. Keep your own life aside from this person just as exciting as this person you are interested in.
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