I am just feeling really down lately. My parents have been deciding to get a divorce for at least 2 years (and these 2 years have been hell for the whole family), but now my mom is finally moving out. me and my sister both saw the divorce coming for a long time, but now that it's finally here, I don't know what to think. Part of me wants me to have a complete family like when every time I go to my friends' house they seem so happy and when i get back home it's just yelling all the time, and the other part of me wants both of my parents to be happy. I just want a happy family like in the movies. I know it's not my fault, but I can't help feeling this way. When I was really really depressed last year, the only thing keeping me from killing myself was the fact that I had a family to go home to everyday. and now I don't even have that. What should I do? I have no one to talk to.
Answers:
1. moved on. I'm sure you're not the only one who had the problem...i can guarantee you that if all the people in this world throw their problems in a pile you might take yours back.
2. The most important thing to remember that your mom and dad love you more than anything, fighting or not and their divorce is their problem. I know it is hard for you, but if your parents are better off apart, then they will be happier and that will make everyone happy. Just remember, they love you no matter what.
3. stay strong and dont worry
4. A friend of mine got divorced a few years ago and feared the effect it would have on her children.
If your parents are civil with each other....and your dad makes an effort to be in your life......your relationship with him may be better than it was when he lived in the house with you.
Talk to him about your fears.....and let him know how important it is for you to make sure he's still your dad.
My friends children are better now then they were before the divorce.....I hope that happens for you too.
5. Yes, it would be nice if we all could have a family like in the movies (of course its' according to which movie you watch). Look, my father was married 6 times, so believe me, I know what you are going through. All you can do is love the both of them; there are some things we just can't control in life. You have your entire life ahead of you to make of it what you wish; you will get through this a stronger, wiser person. No problem in life is worth killing yourself over as the truth is, life is actually one dilema or another to figure out each day -be it what time to get up, how to do your job, or agonizing over a bad relationship. Without problems or conflicts, we would never learn from life as you must experience bad to know what good is and such. Stay strong; this is only temporary and the days, weeks, months will fly by and before you know it, you'll be on your own making your own niche in the world.
6. omg im so sorry. Its been 1 week since my parents got a divorce. Its a very hard time to handle stuff. Be happy. Go out with friends and dont think about it. It helps. Its gonna be hard getting used to it (im not used to it either) and after that its gonna be alot easier. I hope everything works out for you. If you need anything please feel free to email me.!
7. I feel sorry for you. I don't want a divorce either but if I can't keep my partner happy, I really have no choice.
Don't think you are the only one in this position. I am also feeling very down and I really hope when all is finalised, you will start a new life again. Because you are a child and you reminds me of mine, I FEEL BAD!!!!!!!
Divorce is a very painful thing, hope you will be fine. I have seen children that grown to be a more balance child after their parents divorce. Take care!!!!!
8. You need to think of this from the point of view of your parents as a couple, not as your parents. I dont know how old you are or what your background is like, but imagine being stuck in a marriage that is constant dissent and turmoil. Just because your parents cannot live together as man and wife anymore does not mean that they dont care about the family they have made together. You can love a person and not be able to be happy and secure with them. Let you parents do what they need to do to be happy and healthy in their own lives, and the rest will fall in to place. I know its hard to see other families that are happy, when yours is not. Be the better man and let your parents deal with this the best way they can. Talk with your parents and let them know that this is devastating for you, ask them the questions that you need answers to, you may be surprised at the answers. When you can see another persons point of view sometimes it helps for you to come to grips with your own hurt feelings. Peace
9. After 26 years of marriage, and two wonderful children, my husband and I were divorced. Our children were devastated, even though they had witnessed many fights and abusive behavior to each other.
There is nothing "you" can do to bring your "family" back together. "You" were not the one responsible for the demise of your "family".
My two daughters have become extremely close during the 22 years their father and I were divorced, even though one now lives in England. Stay close to your sister.
Love your parents because they did once love each other, and they do still love you.
10. I'm so sorry, you sound so down about all of this. I looked around on the net to see if there is a discussion board that maybe you can talk to other kids about this, so you don't feel so alone. You can even check on the net, stories that other kids wrote about what they went through and maybe it might help you. Hugs.
http://www.dmoz.org/kids_and_teens/your_...
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