i'm a girl, and one of my better guy friends and i talk a lot and hang out a lot. however, i have been beginning to realize that he is only talking to me when his other friend who is a girl isn't around or isn't able to talk. he always makes comments to me about how she's his best friend, and if she's not online for IM, he'll sit and complain to me about how he'd wish she'd get online.
and if she all of a sudden gets online while we are IMing, he'll tell me that he has to go, but won't put up an away message or anything. it's obvious he just wants to end our conversation because he wants to focus on her. he claims that they are just friends, and i do believe him.
he made plans with me this weekend to go out to dinner, but all of sudden cancelled because he's going to that same restaurant with the other girl on the same night. he thinks that him & i are pretty good friends because he pours his heart out to me, but when it comes to how my day went, he doesn't seem to care.
Answers:
1. Then dont...what was the question?
2. It seems clear that he likes her more than a friend. Value yourself more than to be used by someone to pass time. He can and should value both of you. And you deserve it.
3. Just break up with him! It's not a good thing to share a boyfriend!
4. that really sucks!
5. you may not be as pretty as her, but you can always get breast implants that are bigger than hers.
6. ummm he does not see u like that u are a freind and only a freind to him
7. Sorry to tell you this but your a doormat to him. So just do the same thing to him. give him a taste of his own medicine
8. He's a jerk and he isn't interested in you. He's using you. Move on.
9. Then kick him to the curb, he's not that great of a friend, and obviously values the other 'friend' more than you. Likely, he just wants to get with her, and is trying, poorly, to show otherwise.
10. well he doesnt wanna be with you.. or maybe he just sees u like a friend
11. sorry to break it to you but it seems like he has feelings for this girl even though he doesnt want to admit it. just talk to him about it and let him now how it bothers you that he cancels out of nowhere and blows you off
12. Tell him how you feel, i take it you fancy him.....he may not feel the same though, but at least if you say now while its still early then you have more of a chance! if he doesnt feel the same way then just remain friends.
13. He has a crush on that other girl and there's nothing you can do to change that really I'd just let him go and move on if I were you.
14. Sorry sweetie. You like him a lot, but he's just not that into you. He's obviously in love with the other girl. Start hanging out with other guys.
15. The best advice I can give you is to let him know how you feel. Since you guys are not dating, he is not bound to you, but he may be trying to look for a girlfriend to complete him.
Let him know how you feel about him always chaning plans on you guys for her. Make it clear that if he keeps changing it, you don't want to hang out with him.
lol lay the law out for him.
16. seems your jealous and you have a right to be only if he is supposed to be your girlfriend.
17. your his freind nothing more ................time for you to move on....and find someone else ...good luck ..if he wanted you it all would be so much different between you
18. Then don't. That is a shame. It sounds like he is just using you, I am sorry to say it. It is pretty obvious that he just uses you to keep himself occupied until she is around. If he has plans with you it is unbelievably rude to cancel and go with her instead. I seriously suggest that you start making new friends. You need someone in your life who will talk and LISTEN. Friendships are not supposed to be on sided. Good luck! You deserve better!
19. Talk to him about this, and he might have feelings for this girl, but this girl just doesn't like him that way, so they are just friends. But doesn't mean he doesnt have any feelings for her.
20. GURL you gotta let it burn.....if he isn't treating you right let it burn let him go......Just find you a new friend cause dont give all you time and heart to someone who doesn't care you'll just get hurt in return.....So be safe with it but let him go for awhile and see if he cares or come to you dont go to him for a while!
-skillz
21. You don't deserve any of that.
I would stop making plans with him.
Even though you like him, a prerequisite for any healthy relationship is that there is mutual feelings.
No matter what you do, his behavior will not change.
22. If he isn't going to treat you the way he treats her, then you should forget him. He's not worth trying to be friends with when you want more. Perhaps ending the friendship would even make him realize how much he appreciates having you to listen to.. maybe he'd come back. (Of course, don't risk things on "maybes") If you tell this guy how you really feel, though, you probably can't maintain the friendship if he doesn't feel the same for you. So, what should you do? I don't know. It's your life.
23. GIRL IT SEEMS THAT YOU ARE IN LOVE WITH YOUR GUY (BUDDY) I FEEL IF YOU DON'T LET HIM KNOW HE MIGHT GET AWAY FROM YOU OR MAYBE HE'LL JUST NOTICE ON HIS OWN THAT YOU MIGHT BE THE ONE FOR HIM!!!!!MAYBE IT'S NOT MEANT 2 B BUT YOU'LL GET OVER HIM AND MAYBE YOU LIKE THE CONVERSATIONS YOU & HE HAS AND THAT'S THE ATTRACTION THAT YOU HAVE MAYBE THE GUY FOR YOU ISN'T HIM AT ALL HE MAY JUST REMIND YOU OF WHAT YOU WILL SOON BE EXPECTING!!!!!!!!!!!!! DON'T GIVE UP !!!!!!!
YOUR FRIEND
K.G.
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