I borrowed $1500 from a man for a house payment. He cared a lot about me. I didn't pay him back for 6 months before he decided to just make it a gift. I didn't really accept the gift, I said i'd pay him but I have not paid him. Times are/were tough. He kept saying take your time.
Anyways three months before he let me borrow $1500, I let someone have $400 for a trip from FL to NYC. I also let this someone have $50 for a video game AFTER I borrowed the $1500. Well.... I felt bad for him. He has had a drug problem in the past.
The man that borrowed $1500 found out about this and got very upset and called me a user and said I took advantage of him. It all started when I said I wanted to buy a WII in front of him. I wasn't going to buy it, I just wanted to jeeze!
Now he thinks I am a user and I don't take insults well so it spiraled out of control. Hes judging me and using his own fears against me. I hate him now and resent him.
I was separated when I borrowed the money.
Answers:
1. 10 hours ago
I just don't understand... he shouldn't be so mad if hes a real friend. He is like one of those people who expect things back.
2. Well "borrowing" money for you own gain is one thing but giving his cash to another man is another. These are things that you should have took into account. He gave that money to you because he thought that you were in a bind. He found out so now he thiks that you are garbage! Chalk it up hun......the bridge is burnt. I guess now you'll have to ask Mr. Dopey for cheese!
3. 1st up you knowingly loaned a drug addict money no matter what he used the money for you never do that .
2ndly the money was a loan he turned it into a gift you stated you still wanted to pay him back and had no intention of accepting the gift?.
3rdly you could have just explained to him you would like to buy the wii not that you would buy the wii and being adult enough you would have been capable to explain it in full detail to calm the situation.
You dont sound very mature at all , and I'm sorry you do sound like a user otherwise you would have made payments even if they'd just been in $10 installments once a week or once every 2 weeks or even once a month.You had NO intention of paying him back and I am guessing/betting sex was involved with this as well why else would you feel the need to explain to US that you were seperated at the time? and then you decided he wasnt what you wanted which added to his calling you a user , should really explain better if you dont want us jumping to conclusions.
YES he has every right to be angry now do the right damn thing and start paying him back if your not a user.
If you are a user then keep whinging about it .
4. Are you serious? You borrow money to make a mortgage payment and then give some of it away? You have the nerve to be upset with the lender? He has ever right to be upset!
5. Ok, imagine for a second that it's your money. That you give, for example, your drug using friend $1500 of your hard earned cash on a loan because he says he desperately needs it.
Now imagine the days ticking by, with no repayment in sight.
So you take the upper hand; you offer it as a gift. Perhaps he will see there is good in people and change his ways!
Then, you find out that your friend was short of change because he gave HIS money to another drug addict. So THAT'S why he was short! It wasn't just poverty or hard times, he mis managed his money and then came to you crying.
No matter, it's in the past.
But wait! Now you find out he's using your money, not for a house payment but for a fuckin video game!! And is giving away cash to any addict that shows up on the doorstep..
So, if this was you, what would YOU figure was going on?
Is this person shady, or 'an innocent victim' as you want US to believe....?
Wake up!! You're an idiot. Pay the man his money back and stop playing the victim!
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