Im in love with my best friend.. I didnt mean to, it just happened.( I know every one says it, but its true.) I have fallen for her HARD. Problem is....she has a b/f. they have only been dating for like 2 months and have gotten into 3 fights allready. He treats her like crap ( i think) he wont tell anyone,family and friends, that they are together. when he talks about her, all he says is "my g/f" and wont say her name. They got into a big fight and she called me up crying her lil heart out. I told her I would be there and drove 16 miles doing 85 mph. I dont wanna tell her I think he is a *** hole cause then she will be like, thats my bf, and I will lose my best friend. She is so head over heels for this guy that when they fight she tells herself and ever1else... that it was her fault when It wasnt.. It KILLS me everytime I here her call him hunny,or baby, or I see them together....what should I do? I would love to see the split but dont want to see her hurt............
Answers:
1. For now you just have to be happy for her. She will eventually see one day that you have deeper feelings for her and if she chooses to, she will be with you instead of her current b/f.
2. all u can do is b there for her dont change anything that ur dong and keep ur head coo dont get pissed off at her for liking him so much or him for treating her the way he does , be there for her but dont tell her shes wrong she will eventually see its his fault and not hers and hopefully u will be the one to take care off...
3. you need to tell her how you really feel, if she is your best friend then she will care about what you have to say and will know that you are onlt telling her because you love and care about what happens to her
4. Just tell her the truth - As her best friend, you have an obligation to help her out. I'm sure she knows that her boyfriend doesn't treat her all that well, so she can't pin you down for lying or exaggerating. Although the blunt truth isn't very nice to the ears, sugar-coating the situation may strain your relationship. Just try to say it in a nice tone, in a way that gets your point across, yet shows that you care about her deeply. If she gets upset for any reason, tell her that as a friend, you have a responsibility to help her, and you're simply looking out for her feelings.
5. As much as you are stuck in a terrible situation you definetly have to say, "Okay, I really love her... And if I really did I would want her happy". NOw you say she isnt happy with her boyfriend. You need to let her see how awful he is to her.. Trust me it's going to be hard. Be there for her, hold her when she needs it, be her bestfriend, like you have been... Just remember that they won't last forever but your friendship could.
Lastly.. If he starts becoming really mean to her, you need to say that this guy isnt in her best interest.. and she may push away but she will see.. Only time can make people see..
6. Omg .. You should tell her how you feel about her going out with this motherfuking asshole. I know you would lose her but I think it'd be better to lose her than see her with this guy who doesn't even seem to love her.
Sooner or later, she's gonna realise this guy is a piece of trash. And when she does, you can be there for her, and she'll know you were right all long.
Or if you really don't like that idea. Everytime they fight, analyze the problem and put it in a way that makes it sound like its not her fault, but dont blame it on the guy because she's gonna hate you for it.
Just be there for her.. she can't just be that blind .. She's got to see you are one who truly cares about her.
7. This is why guys should not have girls as their best friend. Dude you are forever in the friend zone. Don't you realize that she calls you when she needs to talk to you about other guys? You might as well be her gay friend. You can be there for her and give her advice but forget about she and you hooking up because your chances are practically nill, because she doesn't see you that way.
Hang out with the fellas, if you see a girl you like, don't treat her like a friend. She should know that if you guys are going to spend time together it's not in the friend mode, but a more intimate relationship.
8. Right now she is very confused but in love it sounds like. They will break up soon I suspect. As soon as they do be there for her and hopefully sparks will fall between the two of you. Don't be pushy or you could lose her.
9. Tell her how you feel, and tell her about this, but RESPECTIVLY... because advice for her... no matter how much you like someone, if they keep hurting you alot, you just got to end it.
But i've personally been in this story, if she doesn't like you, don't get attached...
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